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Embracing the Unknown

Two weeks ago, I quit my job.

Wait, WHAT? I know.

I don’t speak of my job very often on my blog…On purpose.

I view my blog as an open, vulnerable, honest space. I’m pretty keen on letting you guys into the weird little corners of my life, especially when it involves that time my family had to pay me to go on the Jaws ride due to my irrational fear of anything sharky…and…you know…the fact that I’m 25 and I still don’t really know how to use make up. That being said, much like in a relationship, I think it’s important to have parts of your life that are reserved for you. Whether that’s a hobby, a job, a journal, whatever it is, find something and choose not to share it with everyone. Keep a few secrets sacred.

It’s kind of like being a spy. Kind of.

Let me preface all of this by saying that I loved my job. I loved the people at my job. I loved the office, the location, and my CEO. I loved my teams, the brands I worked on, and my role at the company. I loved that my job was the reason I moved to New York City, and that it was the launch pad for my career. I love everything thing it’s taught me about myself, and I feel good knowing it is a place I will always feel connected to.

That being said, I knew deep down it was time to go exploring. A sort of spelunking if you will.

I had no back up plan in place…On purpose.


I think sometimes we become so wrapped up in looking into the future, that we forget where we are and what we’re feeling right now. There is a lot of validity in the now, but often we are so afraid of the answers, that we stop asking the important questions. These questions are different for everyone. Every year I try to evaluate where I’m at by asking myself questions and doing my best to answer them honestly. After a year with my company, I knew I had a few questions that needed to be be answered.

This time around those questions were:

  • Am I happy?
  • Am I being challenged enough?
  • Do I feel creatively fulfilled and utilized everyday?
  • Am I growing personally and professionally?

  • I always seem to put a lot of thought into the many scenarios that could play out. It can be a vice, because I tend to spend hours over thinking things, but it’s nice in the sense that once my mind is made up I go into tackle mode. I zero in on whatever it is and charge full speed ahead. (Note: This is not generally applied to people. Have no fear, if I see you on the street and I want to give you a hug, I won’t charge and tackle you).

    Once I took the time to answer those questions, I knew exactly what I needed. I needed to take a few weeks to recharge my creative batteries. I needed to spend a little time with family. I needed to get out of the city, smell the fresh air, dig my toes into the sand, go kayaking, stay up until 1am with my best friend having deep life chats, start fresh, and MOSTLY I really needed to learn how to do that hat flip trick that I always see the kids in the subway cars doing.


    I’m getting there. If you follow me on Twitter, you may have seen a vine of my many failed hat flip attempts.


    I just needed to embrace the unknown, a concept I am still trying to work my way through. Not knowing is kind of scary. To some extent, we never REALLY know anything, we just think we do. We think we need more of this or less of that and we try our best to adjust accordingly. I wanted to experience letting go of something, bravely, without feeling like I had to plan my next ten steps. What actually ended up happening was kind of serendipitous.


    I stumbled upon a company that I knew had a lot to offer me creatively, intellectually, and professionally. I knew the moment I found them, that it was a company I had to work for. I applied the day before giving my two weeks notice.

    I start Monday.

    So cheers to the unknown. To not having everything perfectly planned out. To going after what you want for yourself, for your career, for your love life, for your future. Cheers to listening to your head sometimes, but following your heart. Cheers to wildly chasing your dreams when you’re young. To losing and finding balance. To knowing what you’re capable of. Cheers to, “Why?” Cheers to, “Why not?” Cheers to asking yourself scary questions and answering them honestly.

    Cheers to it’s never too late.

    Cheers to taking a chance on something good, because nothing good ever gets away.


    1. Christine says

      Nice! There’s nothing like the feeling of following your dreams……(but it’s NEVER too late!!) Nice job, cousin! Good luck!!

    2. I’ve done this before as well. I’m the same as you.. I always just have a back up, I think way ahead so I know I am SAFE no matter what I choose to do. Especially when it comes to jobs. cuz you need money to live, right? Well I had been playing basketball in Europe for 5 years, came home to America in the summer then go back in the fall. Repeat. Until finally I realized I wasn’t going anywhere.. it was time to move on. I knew it, but I was afraid because I didn’t know what I’d do next. You can read that here: http://mainerabroad.bangordailynews.com/2012/07/18/germany/retiring-at-27/ But I am really happy for you, glad it’s working out. It’s very exhilarating to do…

    3. Congrats! I think everyone has a little spring fever at the moment. I just took a new job here in the City, leaving the one I moved here to take and all my wonderful friends and coworkers. It’s hard, but it’s important to be able to recognize when you’re falling into a routine that doesn’t allow you to grow, or worse, prevents you from being happy. We’re lucky because there are ample opportunities to challenge ourselves in a world that told us we were unemployable just 4 years ago. Best of luck on your new adventure!

      • Thanks, Kelly! I’ve been in NYC for a year now and every day there are new challenges. Still, it’s easy to let New York intimidate you into indifference. Not falling complacent is sometimes the biggest challenge, and we just get stuck. I think beating the odds is always the best feeling! Thanks for reading!

    4. Wow this is beautiful Carley. It’s really inspiring for me as I’m graduating this year.
      Also, you’re super pretty πŸ™‚

    5. cheers to everything you said! and to the brace decision you made πŸ™‚

    6. Mrs. P says

      I completely agree with all your thoughts on this…cheers to everything…except it is NOT reserved for the young! πŸ˜‰ I had a very similar thought process when I was in my late forties and jumped into the unknown with my heart on my chest. It was the best thing I ever did!

    7. This post made me smile (and feel giddy inside). I know that it’s possible to take a chance, and have it work out. So happy that it did for you! I too have been debating whether or not to leave my current job, and I’ve been losing sleep over it for a long time.

    8. Chanel Jibal says

      Wow congrats. I dream of quitting my job on a daily basis. I hope one day I can find something else like you did!!! you go girl πŸ™‚

    9. Great stuff!!! I think you did a really good job at finding something that will fulfil you more deeply, it’s what is important to you that counts. Keep moving forward!

      Though when dealing with ourselves use our heads, when dealing with people use our hearts!

    10. GaryLee828 says

      Congrats on your new job! You said there should be certain aspects of your life you keep secret from your blog, does that mean you haven’t revealed to readers what your occupation is? I just stumbled across this blog and read your entry, and while reading I was curious as to what you did, and didn’t see a mention.

      As far as not being very good at your make-up, etc. I’m no expert, but me personally as a guy don’t like when a woman applies too much make-up; you should scratch red or pink lipstick b/c it looks unnatural, and wear a more subtle lipstick – maybe something clear (maybe even a nice lip gloss instead); find a nice base that goes well with your complexion; and a little mascara and eye-liner to highlight your eyes. Good to go.

      • Thanks, Georgina! Loving it! πŸ™‚ I actually wanted to contact you, so your comment came at such perfect timing. Keep an eye peeled for an email from me in the near future! πŸ™‚

    11. Congratulations! I just found your blog through the article you wrote for Hello Giggles πŸ™‚ I loved it, and I love your site!

    12. So cool! I’m in the process of finding a job in NYC (or maybe somewhere in California) so maybe I’ll have as easy of a time as you did finding one. Do you mind sharing what your new job is?

    13. Mom says

      The unknown will always be just that. A roadblock … or a challenge? A change in the current situation, learning , expanding educating yourself is the thing that will crack the unknown and make it comfortable. The unknown can be the thing that is CRAZY uncomfortable or … it can be the adventure. I lived a unique life as you know, going through the problems and making the changes and educating myself restored a sense of lol… ZEN!!!!! I love you. hahaha I almost called you Pooh Bear hahaha but this post is so old that I doubt anyone will notice.
      I think what I wrote pertains to all issues alas we all love an adventure !

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