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Ma’am, You’ve Caught A Bad Case Of The Blog

Keeping a diary has never been my thing.

The whole, “Dear Diary, today I saw Jimmy. He’s really cute. I think he’s going to ask me out soon,” thing has never been my style.

Then again, Jimmy was never going to ask me out. He wore a pocket chain, had frosted tips, and he listened to Simple Plan.  He was a 7th grade God.

I mean, now he has a criminal record, and I caught him stealing my $400 camera off of the counter at the convenient store, while I was buying sunscreen, but that’s entirely beside the point.

Keeping a journal always sounded a little cooler than a diary. It didn’t seem to require any type of introduction. It seemed deeper, more personal, and more intimate. I can admit to keeping a journal. Actually, I can admit to keeping at least 10 journals over the last 24 years of my life. I can’t honestly say I finished any of them, but isn’t that the point of journals? It isn’t about a start, or a finish. It’s about expressing your feelings, kneading through them in the privacy of your very own binding. Taking them apart and reassembling them like a Lego masterpiece.

That is slightly inaccurate. I never followed the directions on the Lego kits, which is probably why my parents never bought them for me. Now before you go all, “Oh no you DIDN’T, Legos were the bomb dot com” on me, I’m not bashing Lego. I’m just saying that instead of building the Lego Forest Police Station, (is that actually a THING?) I preferred to build…a really tall tower.

My favorite part of this, is that on the Barnes & Noble website, the description reads: Spot the robbers hiding the stolen goods behind a rock!
…Dumb criminals, everyone knows the big tree is where you’re supposed to hide your stolen goods!

What I’m trying to say, is that in a journal, I could take apart and reassemble my feelings, until I had them just right. Diary sounded too pretty, too polished, too clean. I needed something messy. I needed room to scratch things out, and the freedom to shamelessly tear pages away.

A journal sounds forgiving.
Like…Hey I don’t think you’re a bad person for writing this. Get it all out. We’re still tight.

Thanks, Journal. High five.

Blogging has always been in its own category, a category I was sure I wanted no part of. Blog? What is that? Is that even a word? It sounds like a disease.
“Ma’am, I’m sorry I have to be the one to inform you, but you’ve caught a bad case of the blog…”

Am I right? Of course I am. As far as I understood, the blogosphere was a place for people who had similar interests to connect. For example, sometimes blogging connections are made like so:

-Oh, you like to cook? I like to cook! Let’s be buds.
-Oh, you like to crochet? So do I! Will you accept this crocheted hat as a symbol of my bloggitude?
-You’re married, had the most amazing wedding of all time, and have three BEATIFUL children? Me too! My kids are cuter. Let’s be frenemies.

What the heck was I supposed to do in the blogging world? Where would I fit in?

-Oh, the squirrels are trying to steal YOUR crock pot? Me too!
-Oh, you creepily people watch at coffee shops and then write about them against their will? SO DO I!
-Wait, HOLD UP! You’re still trying to figure out how to Dougie? I heard all you need is a beat that’s super bumpin. Besties!

Not having a niche deterred me from blogging for a very long time. I briefly recovered from this fear while I was living abroad. I settled for keeping a travel blog…aaaand then I came home. Game over.

While sitting in a local coffee shop (coffee addicts, UNITE), one January day two months ago, I dove into the deep end and decided I was going to give this whole blogging thing another try. I have to say, so far it’s been a pretty wild ride. Lately, a lot of people have been asking me what kind of blog I write.

Usually I stick with “humorous self deprecation.” Somehow describing it as: “…Something about squirrels breaking into my apartment, being terrible at make up, and overcoming my importunate phobia of all things sharky” doesn’t sound very official.

I still don’t have a clique that I fit into. It’s like having lunch tray anxiety in the middle of a busy college cafeteria. You know your friends are somewhere, there is a whole sea of friendly faces, but you’re just not sure where you’re friends are, or where you are supposed to sit. Worst case scenario, just stand by the waffle machine.

You can’t go wrong with the waffle machine.



  1. HI there! It was soooo nice to meet you on Saturday. Thanks for offering to switch cards with me when I announced that my networking skills were sub-par at best. I can’t wait to keep reading. Your blog is great.

    • Hey Erin! It was so nice to meet you as well. Thank you so much for stopping by! Like I said, networking is my steeze. I love meeting and working with new people. I’m going to bop over to your blog RIGHT now to check things out!

  2. I think about this often, as I definitely don’t fit into a blog category either, unless you count the “I post way too many photos of my pets” blog. But I’ve decided it’s okay.. there are a million things that make me, me. I’m a crafty,cooky, gardeny, clothes-loving, photo-taking fiend and I don’t think I need to blog about just one of my interests so I can fit into a category. I’m quite happy with what I’m doing and I like what you’re doing too. So kudos.

    I’ve only discussed my blog to a new acquantanse once- last week, and it was only because I wanted to take the quizes I linked up to for Hunger Games Night and I had to explain about where they were from. I didn’t feel embarrassed after, like I assumed I would. Definitely not 100% comfy telling people about it yet though.

    Also: I had a journal with an actual lock on it when I was younger, and I wrote things like “John, and Freddy and Travis are my boyfriends.” or “Laura took my seat at lunch, I don’t like her anymore.” The ramblings of my third grade self, are quite interesting now. 🙂

  3. I’m so glad you shared your thoughts and opinions on not having a specific corner. That being said, I also think there is NOTHING wrong with having a blogging zone. I went to a blogging conference this weekend and I had a blast explaining what I write about to people. I’ve always envied the people who have fashion, or are stellar at cooking, I mean…I own clothes and I cook food, it’s just not what I love to write about.

    So glad you’ve decided to stick around, Frankie! Also, you have the coolest name ever. I love when girls rock “male” names.

  4. I feel like if there was a “awkward moments/tripping over things/slightly embarrassing moments have made us exasperated before our time because of sheer frustration but given us enough reason to laugh it all off, both of which facial expressions have created a great need for early applying of anti-wrinkle cream” blog category, you and I might be in that.

    We might be blogging soul mates.
    Is that weird? Too soon? Maybe we can find a middle ground.

    My mom tells me sometimes that I have wrinkles on my forehead already. Thanks, ma. I’m just expressive, JEEZ!

    So glad you stopped by, your comment sort of made my day.

    • not weird, not too soon, sometimes it’s just meant to be, why fight it?
      Wrinkle lines aren’t our fault, it’s those pesky walls jumping out at us and those people who aren’t open to talking to complete strangers. Gosh.
      (our Mother’s will understand our early aging one day!)

  6. You totally crack me up!! BTW, I also have a fear of sharks, maybe not as bad as yours. Mine is more of a fear of deep water (where sharks live). I don’t even like deep swimming pools! My blog is also difficult to define…I think we may be in the “other” category, and I think that’s ok–just makes us well-rounded. Right?

    • Haha! Thank you! I’m always happy when I am able to make people laugh. See, here’s the thing, my deep water situation is F-I-N-E.

      I grew up on the beach, I’m down with surfing, and boating, and fishing (provided Jaws isn’t what snags my line). It really is just the vision of sharks…in tanks…behind screens…in pictures…where they can’t ACTUALLY cause me harm.

      It’s so irrational.

  7. I just found your blog about a week ago on the WordPress front page – and I love it! It’s my new favorite read, because it’s NORMAL. 🙂 It can have epic moments, but it also has just the mundane and normal things of your life. It’s great. So thank you! You don’t have to have a “niche” to be a cool blogger. 🙂

    • Normal! *Scratches head* What does that even mean?!
      Haha just kidding, I totally feel you. I’m glad you can relate to what you’ve read so far. Hope you stick around! xo

      PS, the cool kids are always over rated.

  8. I completely hear what you are saying. I was worried at first that I did not have an exact blog niche but now that I have been posting away, I like feeling like a mutt! I think we are our own special category – unclassified perhaps? In any regards, just think, if someone was just writing about dogs and then they wanted to write about airplanes, they would have to start another blog per se. For us mutts, we can blog away about random things and I would hope it keeps our followers interested as they never know what is coming next! And I enjoy your blog!

    • Haha, mutts! I like that! Great analogy. Thanks for reading/commenting! I imagine I’d become bored if I was restricted to only writing about one thing.

  9. I agree about niches; I have found that many people eventually have some sort of life event that becomes their main everyday nondeviating topic, which is good/theraputic- for yourself! So how does that compare to a blog that which focused on that point in the first place. Good point, you got me thinking; what will my own path be (expecially with writing challenges on the side!)

    • I’m glad I was able to help you think deeper about this! Like I said, I think subject based blogs are great! I’m just not one of them. I’ll blog about a recipe or a furniture re-do here and there, and occasionally there’s photography, or an issue I feel strongly about, but I like including a little bit of everything because that’s how my life is!

  10. Mom says

    hahahahahaaaaaaa to Car and Elgie love those wrinkles as long as they come from having fun embrace them and laugh out loud….really loud and make wierd faces and do it often. When you get older people will tell you they make you look like you have character, lol they could be frown lines

  11. I can wholeheartedly agree with everything you’ve just written! I’ve kept many journals, as diaries were too fussy. I’ve been blogging (on and off) for 13 (!) years, and /still/ have not really “found my niche.” No kids to Mommy-blog about, no traveling to be seen frequently enough to warrant a blog (‘sup, student loans?) and definitely no crafty-craftness found in my apartment. So what’s left?

    I’ll take you up on the coffee-drinking-people-watching grounds! Pleased to be blog.

    • I mean, diaries and journals MIGHT be the same thing for all I know! I’ve just never been on the “Dear Diary” train.

      My blog does include my travel stories. Despite student loans, I’ve been fortunate to be able to accomplish a great deal of traveling. Once in a while I’ll include something crafty…I really like refurbishing furniture. I just like writing about everything, as opposed to sticking to one thing.

      Student loans are a kick in the head. I feel ya, sister!

  12. You have a fantastic writing style – I love it! And what you say about blogging is so true. I.e. I began writing about birds but it evolved into so much more and sometimes I’m not quite sure what my blog is actually about!

  13. Love your blog on blog! You have hit nerve with me. Having only started to blog in the last month, my reason was to document things my kids should know as they grow-up that I wanted to be sure were down in writing. Sharing wasnt the biggest thing, but it is nice to know that there are a lot of people with vision and insight and they are around the world and in your town too. Thanks!

  14. Totally agree about the blogging categories. I feel like everyone falls into either food, fashion, mom, or health. What are we?! Amazing, that’s what!

    Okay, maybe I’m just inflating out fragile blog egos. But I think we’re pretty awesome.


  15. I never thought about blogs needing a niche until I hit 20sb. I always assumed that people wrote because they had something to say- things that don’t fit into boxes and corners.
    I’m glad you’re not boxed in by a niche.

    • That’s kind of how I feel! I’m glad you are also not in a niche! I really loved poking around your blog. Thank you so much for stopping by! Writing because you have something to say, not JUST because you feel obligated to post a specific photo of a specific thing, is the best way to write.

  16. If it makes you feel any better, I DO actually sit at coffee shops and people watch, too. I’ve been eavesdropping (or as my students say: “ear-hustling”) on a conversation by a couple of gentlemen discussing politics in the corner for the last 20 minutes or so… That’s one of the things I had planned to write about in my own blog, but find that I always get caught up in news and other boring things like that. So don’t feel bad. Maybe we should start a new clique: “bloggers of undetermined tastes!”

  17. Teach teach teach me how to dougie teach teach me how to dougie… YOU NEEDS to stop DOT ORG ! great post enjoyed it.

    • Hahaha that’s the spirit! Glad you enjoyed it. Seriously, I’ve been trying to figure out this Dougie business for the last year.

  18. shinganist says

    OMG. I got this waffle maker that makes clown, tiger (I say liger, it’s cooler) and elephant shaped waffles. Let’s be besties! I am not being sarcastic at all. And that was not sarcastic.

  19. Hahah! I was cracking up while reading this, mostly because I could not have said it better myself. I’ve never been a diary person, but I do have a journal, mostly full of weird lists that don’t make much sense

  20. By “waffle machine,” do you mean “waffle iron”? Because I have one of those, & purchasing it was on my 101 in 1,001 List.

    Wait, was that not the point of this post? I’m easily distracted, it seems.

    • Ah yes, waffle iron! Who cares what the point of this post is….more importantly…YOU HAVE A WAFFLE IRON!? I’ma comin’ over for waffles!

  21. Hi there! This post couldn’t bee written any better!
    Reading through this post reminds me of myy peevious roommate!

    He continually ept preaching about this. I am going to send this post to him.
    Fairly certain he’ll have a very good read.
    Thank you for sharing!

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