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Ten Things I Learned From My Father

A few months ago, I featured a post titled “Ten Things I Learned From My Mom.” I’ve spent the last few weeks reflecting, and decided that I also wanted to feature a similar post dedicated to my father. I’m fortunate enough to have two loving parents that I am very close with, and I hope some day that I can take everything I’ve learned from them, and apply it to my own parenting techniques.

1. Kick ‘Em Where It Hurts

In first grade, I came off the school bus hysterically crying. My dad met me at the top of our driveway, tried to console the sobbing little human peeking timidly up at him from underneath her bangs, while clutching her ninja turtle lunch box. After he asked me what was wrong, I explained that another boy on the bus had been saying mean things to me. My dad told me to nicely ask the boy to leave me alone, and to tell the bus driver if he didn’t listen

The next day, Dad met me at the top of the driveway. Again, a sobbing little human stormed across the street and flew into his arms. When my dad asked me what happened this time, I told him that the boy on the bus had put his hands around my neck and squeezed really hard. Infuriated, Dad told me the next time the little boy touched me in a way that made me uncomfortable, I had his permission to drive my foot between his legs as hard as I could.

A few days later, my dad was sitting at his desk at work when the phone rang. It was the principal of my elementary school, calling to tell him that I had kicked a little boy between the legs on the playground. After confirming that it was, in fact, the boy from the bus, he told the principal that he had given me permission to do so, after the little boy had tried choking me.

My dad’s reasoning? In a world where strangers are constantly hurting and even abducting little girls, why should I teach my daughter to politely ask a boy trying to blatantly choke her, to leave her alone?

Needless to say, the principal and the little boy both understood the message loud and clear.

My dad hung up the phone and whispered, “That’s my girl.”

2. Take your time getting where you’re going

I graduated college when I was 22, and after four years of college I racked up enough student loans to keep me in debt until I’m 70. After returning to Australia to complete my student teaching, I came back to America, and did what most college graduates are forced to do upon entering “the real world”…I moved back home.

In what “real world” are we living in, where nobody is hiring, and college grads are sitting on top $80,000 dollars in student loans? Keep in mind that I wasn’t sitting around eating Cheetos, and watching reruns of Americas Next Top Model. I worked three jobs, paid my own bills, and on top of that, made student loan payments every month. I was fortunate to have a very understanding father, who was comfortable letting me live at home until I built up enough of a financial pin cushion, where I could afford my bills, my loans, AND rent. Rather than giving me the boot when it was convenient, he gave me time, encouragement, and understanding. Now I’m living the good life my own apartment, close to the center of town, and I consider myself to be very financially stable and independent for a 24 year old

3. There IS a man worthy of your attention…just not that one…OR that one…

Every father’s nightmare. I always joke that I am going to have a son, so I can teach him how to treat women. He’ll go out there and show all of his friends how to properly treat women, thus starting the domino effect of great future boyfriends and husbands. You’re welcome, world.

Huddle in close, I have a secret to share with you. I’ve had my fair share of relationship horror stories. I know this seems far fetched, but the truth is, I dated some doozies. I might be getting some phone calls after this, because I’m still good friends with MOST of my exes. Sorry, guys! But the GOOD news is that MOST of you have gotten your acts together since our dating days.

My dad referred to one of my relationships as “the thing that wouldn’t die,” because it just kept going, and going, and going. Every time my family thought it was over, I decided it was a good idea to forgive and forget.

Most of my male friends growing up were afraid of my dad, and I didn’t blame them. My dad must have a jerk radar, and he definitely emits a “mess with my daughter, I DARE YOU” vibe. I wouldn’t want to date me if I were a guy, and I’m glad I never had to go through the process of shaking my dad’s hand the first time.

4. Just keep digging.

My senior year of high school, I was chosen as the volleyball captain. You would think the captain would have it all together, right? Wrong. During a particularly important game, every ball that came my way hit the ground. I couldn’t blame it on anyone but myself. I just couldn’t get it together. My coach made the decision during the first game to sit me on the bench, something he hadn’t done all season. I wasn’t upset with him. I completely understood, and it’s what I would have done had I been in his position. However, I was devastated with my performance. A very large part of me wanted to run to the nearest locker room and hide inside one of the tallest lockers until the game was over, but instead, I watched the rest of the game from the bench.

The next day at school, I was called down to the main office midday. Sitting on the secretary’s desk was a beautiful bouquet of flowers. Our secretary giddily told me that my biggest fan had dropped the flowers off for me. I opened the note, and only once sentence was written on the inside:

“Just keep digging.”

I still have the note from that bouquet of flowers, and I look at it from time to time. It helps me remember that sometimes you’re not going to be able to pass every ball that life throws on you, but you HAVE to keep digging

The next game was my best game of my entire high school career, and it just so happened that two college scouts were visiting to watch me play.

5. Make your free throws.

Basketball was one of the first things my father and I really bonded over. Well, aside from playing NSYNC on repeat in his car for three weeks straight, those were real bonding moments as well. Growing up, we spent countless hours shooting a basketball around in the driveway. It was OUR thing. You know that game horse? You have to make the shot that the person before you made, and if you miss, you get a letter. The first person to spell H-O-R-S-E, loses. Well, Dad and I changed it to L-O-S-E-R, that way the winner could victoriously call the other person a loser. My father and I aren’t particularly good losers. We’re even worse winners. Before there was horse, and loser, there were free throws. I remember Dad meticulously explaining the importance of making your free throws. We stayed out in the driveway for hours, practicing concentration, holding the ball, lining up, and following through.

When you step up to the line to make a free throw that is YOUR moment. The gym hushes, everything stills, and it’s just you, the ball, and the hoop. It’s a lot like grasping once in a life time opportunities. It taught me to always focus on my dreams, to line myself up with what I want out of life.

It taught me to follow through.

6. Memories Are Greater Than Things:

My father has always been a man of simplicity and efficiency. He’s never needed the nicest car or the biggest house, or the smartest phone. Growing up I didn’t necessarily understand this. Why buy a smaller house, if you can afford to buy a bigger house? What’s interesting is at the ripe age of 24, if you ask me what my favorite parts of growing up were, I couldn’t even tell you what kind of car Dad drove. What I can tell you, is that he took me on the most AMAZING family trip to Hawaii when I was fifteen. It’s where I learned to surf, it’s where I saw my first beautiful sunset, and it’s where I first realized how emotionally and mentally connected to the ocean I was. When I was 17, Dad took me on a trip to Universal Studios. Aside from my traumatic experience on the Jaws ride, it was spectacular. It was just the two of us, best friends, exploring a park of make believe and movie magic. When I was 21, Dad flew to Australia for two weeks to visit me while I was living abroad. After a month and a half without my family, the excitement I felt when I walked out of my apartment and saw him walking toward me was so uplifting. We spent an incredible weekend in Sydney, where we actually climbed the Sydney Harbor Bridge. Three months later, broken hearted, I returned back home. I had not seen the rest of my family in five months, and I hadn’t seen my dad in three months, but I was crushed to be leaving Australia. Little did I know, that my father had flown out to surprise me in San Francisco. Instead of enduring a 5 hour lay over, he and I would spend the next three days exploring California together.

When all is said and done, I would rather have the memories of every single special moment with my father, than any materialistic item in the world. Things are often tossed aside. Things cause us to be wasteful. Things break.

The experiences we’ve had together are stored safely in the deepest spaces of my heart, not a moment was wasted, and they are truly unbreakable.

Fresh off the boat in San fran

7. The Value Of Money

I have always worked hard to earn the things I want in life, because I grew up watching my parents work hard. I have never allowed ANYONE to make me feel like I don’t deserve the things I have, because that would be directly insulting the people in my life who taught me how hard I would have to work to make them possible. At the age of 20, when most kids were spending their summer vacation on the beach or at house parties, I was working 70 hours a week to pay for the traveling I would be doing while studying in Australia. During my senior year, when most of my friends were out having fun, I spent every night Monday through Saturday waiting tables at a ski lodge to pay for my airfare and expenses, so I could return to Australia to teach. I pay my own rent, I pay my own bills, and every month I make student loan payments to pay for my education.

Is that to say my parents don’t help me when they feel it’s necessary? Of course not. I am so fortunate to have parents who recognize when I need a boost, and I also realize that is a privilege, not a right. However, I am also proud of how hard I’ve worked, and have never let anybody make me feel like I shouldn’t be.

8. Family will always be there to make you laugh

I have a huge family, and we’re all a bunch of pranksters. We all share the same sense of humor, which makes family gatherings a blast. There is never a dull moment at Christmas. Every year, we add new hilarious tales to our repertoire, and every year, we tell and retell these stories.

They never stop being funny.

-There’s the one with the colostomy bag
-There’s the one where my grandmother put vanilla pudding on her hamburger thinking it was mayonnaise.
-There’s the one where my cousin and I turned all of my aunts pictures upside down because we know how neat she likes to keep things.
-There’s the one where I called my dad a douchebag.
-There’s the one where my dad finally told his sister that he hates the chocolate covered cherries she always gives him at Christmas.
-And there’s the one where EVERYONE gave my dad a box of chocolate covered cherries for Christmas, because we now all know how much he hates them.

My dad has raised me with a great sense of humor, and as much as he dishes it out, he can definitely take it.

Giving each other a hard time post college graduation^

9. Give Back To The Community.

While working full time, my dad also managed to somehow be at every single one of my athletic fund raisers. In a sea of volleyball and basketball moms, there stood my dad in the middle of the pack, selling cookies to raise money for our volleyball gear. Some kids might have been embarrassed to see their dad at their high school with a bunch of moms selling baked goods, but I loved it! Every time that I saw him there selling cookies like the proceeds would be going toward his new big screen TV, I’d walk up to him and high five him. I was so proud to be able to point over to the table and say, “Look! That’s MY dad.”

After having raised a handicapped son, my dad volunteers every year for the Special Olympics. Last year, Blake, Dad, and I all volunteered together. Blake and I took turns keeping score, I photographed the event, and Dad kept the clock. His dedication to the community has inspired me to volunteer at multiple places, including the Special Olympics, and at a local homeless shelter making bagged lunches.

10. That’s life.

Sometimes, things happen in life that you just can’t change. It’s a hard pill to swallow when you’re seventeen and your boyfriend cheats on you, or you need a full brake replacement that ends up costing more than your rent. It’s easy to bury your head in your pillow and scream for two hours, but it doesn’t accomplish a whole lot. Things happen that we have no control over, and that’s part of life. You can sit around feeling sorry for yourself, or you can get out of bed in the morning knowing that there are people out there who are in worse situations than an ended relationship or a car repair. My parents have said to me thousands of times, “Your brother would have traded one of his good days for one of your bad days,” and sometimes I have to remind myself of that.

You have to take control over your own life, because if you don’t, your hardships will cause you to lose your mind all together.

^Left – My dad holding my brother
Right – Me & Dad dancing



  1. Carley – Cried at work when I read this – I am a super Daddy’s Girl and it just made me think of my own dad and some of the things he taught me. One of my favorites being the “that’s life” one. Love that I can feel connected to you through your bloggy blog! xoxoxo

    • Don’t cry Linsey! I’m so glad you enjoyed it! I’m glad you felt connected, I was hoping people would be able to see the true emotion behind it! Thanks for reading 🙂

  2. Suzanne Cyr says

    Carley: Thank you for this post; as I read it, it validated why I have fallen deeply in love with your father; this post allowed me to do that all over again. You are blessed; blessed in SO many, many, many ways. I wish you the best in all of your future endeavors (writing as you possess a great gift). You have a beacon of light (dad) shining the way for you and a rock (Blake) to rest on when the journey is wearing you down; and lastly a mother who has guided you well in selecting the “creme-de-la creme” out of life (Blake again). Luv & friendship~ Suzanne

  3. Aunt Gerry says

    Wow, Carley, as usual, your writing impresses me but mostly what you have taken out of life from your crazy family (I can say this, being one of them.) Hard to believe that my pain in the butt younger brother would grow up to be so inspiring. Looking forward to reading more. Love Berry

    • Thanks Gerry! I’m assuming Berry was a typo? Or a weird new nickname you’re trying out? I’m glad you enjoyed, and I feel myself very lucky to have such a humorous family!

  4. Loved it. God, so of those things are the same reasons I love my dad. A blog about my dad has been on my list for awhile… I might do that sooner now. You’ve inspired me 🙂

    • I’m so glad! I also did one about my mom, it can be found under Findingravity Navigation in the menu. Both of my parents have been so influential to my character. I’m glad it’s inspired you to write about your dad, you’ll have to share it with me!

  5. So very sweet 🙂 We are lucky to have such great dads. My family loves Xmas pranks too! I died when I read “colostomy bag”, as my friends and I used to joke about that constantly in high school.

  6. I loooove this! Sounds like you have a truly special family, and clearly you do not take it for granted. I was always a daddy’s girl growing up, so it was really nice reading this. You’re a lucky lady. 🙂

    • Thank you Cassie! I definitely don’t take it for granted. Family is SO important to me. I definitely have a special relationship with my dad.

  7. This is SO beautiful — actually made me teary. Thank you for that.

    And now I feel ridiculous talking about squirrels, but I must say that I loved your “About” description (including the bit about the squirrels). I just had to share that I, too, am being followed around by squirrels of late. Except they’re dead. Seriously! I even posted a few pix on my blog of the dramatic dead squirrels on their backs with their tiny little paws all folded and up in the air. I’m just sayin’: I think we may be kindred spirits. Maybe not soul sisters…but squirrel sisters, perhaps?

    Anyhow, enjoyed your post — thank you!

    • HAHA squirrl sisters, amazing! I will have to check out your squirrel situation, maybe we can help each other! Thank you so much for reading 🙂

    • It was always awesome having a special connection over something we could both participate in! Glad you can relate! Thank you for reading!

    • I related to the basketball story as well. I was assistant coach to my mom who was head coach to my sister’s team and I played on the same team as my other sister. It was a family affair! What a great list of life lessons. I am thankful to have had the childhood I did… it is good to hear about wonderful parents out there.

  8. You are lucky, indeed. My parents divorced when I was an infant and I grew up without my dad, and had a monster for a step-father. Daddy Dearest’s (voluntary) absence from my life taught me a great deal, as well. Maybe I’ll do a post on that.

    This is a lovely piece – your dad would be proud, I’m sure.

    • My parents divorced also, but I am so blessed to have two parents who were able to put raising their child before their own issues. I’m so sorry for your horrible experience with your step-father, but use it to fuel you! Thank you so much for reading.

  9. Teak & Turquoise says

    So sweet! I am sitting here (now in tear thanks to you:) in Norway with my parents back in California, and it has ben 6 months since I last got to see them, or have my dad save the day with just a hug when everything gets crazy….. my favorite part was about the family memories…..we have a crazy bunch too, and when we get all of us together we do nothing but laugh! I really enjoyed reading this!

    • It’s funny, I didn’t realize I was homesick when I was abroad until my dad came to visit! When he left, I had a harder time saying goodbye than when I left my family at the Airport in America!

      I’m glad you enjoyed, thank you for reading!

      • Teak & Turquoise says

        It was the same for me! I was so excited to finally be on my way to Norway after anticipating it for nearly a year, that the sad, homesick part didnt hit me until a few months later…but I think we are really lucky to be able to feel homesick! So many people leave to run away and never look back, and I feel so blessed to have such an amazing family to miss. You clearly have some amazing parents yourself!!!! What a great thing to be able to say! 🙂

  10. I love your post it says it all. I think every parent wants to know that they got it right and raised a child to the best of their abilities and it sounds like you have a wonderful Father just like I do. My Dad does everything and raised us really well and my friends were always so jealous of my parents. My most favorite movie that shows exactly what a daughter means to a Dad is Father Of The Bride with Steve Martin. I still cry watching that movie. Congrats on being Freshly Pressed by the way.

  11. As a therapist who works with teens I have come to see a strong correlation between kids who love their parents and kids who lead fulfilling lives. Congrats on being freshly pressed and sharing your joy with the world.

  12. Erin says

    great post! I totally feel you with the studen loans.. T’m in the same boat:/

  13. ntrinsurance says

    Amazing Story.. My dream is that my daughters think of me the way you think of your dad! He is a hero in my book !

  14. Aaaah you just made me miss my dad. 🙂 I’m currently in Spain (been here for 2 years) and I haven’t seen my parents since Christmas. I’m not really a daddy’s girl, but your post made me remember all the times I agonized over math homework in school and how my dad miraculously seemed to just “get it” within 5 seconds… essentially doing the math for me haha. Dads are the best. 😀

  15. This is such a beautiful word picture of a thriving family. Family’s need a strong father figure who can both lead and love their children into adulthood. This is very similar to how God wants to lead and love us through life. You are blessed Carley, and I hope you can enjoy more moments with your Father and Mother for many more years to come.

  16. Adam@livelikemark says

    Carley – what a great post! It’s so incredibly important to recognize the people in our lives. Who would we be without them? So often people coast from day-to-day, living in a “just get through it” kind of daze, yet here you are being so awesome by recognizing a truly amazing man. Keep up the amazing posts!!

    • I’m so sorry to hear about your father. I will be sure to read the post you write about your dad on your blog. I can’t believe how many people have connected to what I’ve written. I am SO touched. Thank you for reading!

  17. moneymakingjus says

    Congratulation for being on Freshly Pressed!! Keep up with the good work!!!

  18. This is a great post!

    I think your family taught you everything you need to be a success in life.The part about working while your friends were having fun is a hard one. But people only see the success and they do not realize that the guy who makes it big, becomes a sports star or a well known doctor is the one who woke up earlier than the others, worked later, or worked harder for the most part. Thankfully you get it!

    And don’t be afraid of sharks!

  19. Really impressed by this post. It’s good to read a great something from someone my own age and be able to properly relate to it. You’ve talked about some very important things, really made me think.

    • I’m so glad I’ve been able help you think! That’s all I can really hope for as a writer. Thank you so much for reading!

  20. What a homage to your dad! He is a great (if not THE) example of unconditional love and support. You’re very fortunate. I especially connected with the part about dating; my dad was the scary dad, but when he met the man I would marry, he told me “you better be nice to him!” I had a very tenuous relationship with my dad growing up, but I’ve been back at home helping my parents clean out my childhood stuff. Now that I’m able to look at the artifacts of my youth, I realize that my dad loved me very much and always supported me. His way of showing it was more of a reflection of him dealing with the demons of his own childhood. Again, thanks for writing such a great post.

    • You know, I don’t think my dad ever considered that he was being scary, but to a bunch of 18 year olds? Forget it! He scared most of the guys that were interest in me right out the door. Looking back, I’m glad he did. He always had my best interest in mind.

  21. I lost my Dad to cancer a little over a year ago. You should be so thankful of that bond you have with your Dad. Mine was the best of all of them and I will never forget him. I feel I have lived the Mark Twain quote: “When I was a young man my father was so stupid I could scarce stand to have him around, but when I turned 21 he became the wisest man alive.” I have my own children now and his wisdom is now echoing through their lives.

    • What a lovely comment. It brought tears to your eyes, I can’t imagine losing either of my parents. I always try to make sure they know how much I love them, because I know some day they won’t be around. Thank you for sharing!

  22. Wise beyond your years, lady. I’d say Dad and Mom did an excellent job and this post of yours is one of many rewards they receive every day from watching their baby girl turn into a thoughtful, responsible, happy individual.

    • Thank you kindly! What a lovely thing to say. I like to think I am wise, but sometimes I feel like I have so much to learn! I suppose that’s all part of growing up, you never stop learning!

  23. pachowww says

    I couldn’t even read any after number 4; I felt this craving inside for someone like this. What I did read was truly beautiful. You’re a lucky girl. 🙂

  24. What a wonderful post! My awesome dad, who in 2008 ceased to resist the changing of form and has passed onto the ‘nother places (I miss him so), was the number one key figure in my life. Like your dad, he taught me the lessons that have helped me fluidly and peacefully move through life, despite set-backs, disappointments and redirection along my journey. Thank you for providing us with a blessing today . . . a vehicle to acknowledge those dads who truly loved and made a profound, positive difference in the lives of their daughters. ~Gerean

    • I am SO happy you found my post and that you were able to relate to it! I also wrote one for my mom, whom I also cherish and love deeply. Thank you for reading!

  25. Really awesome post! I had to travel a quarter of the world to even understand half of the things my dad was trying to teach me as you have mentioned in yours.
    I can really feel your personality come alive in your writing. Keep it up as I believe it can inspire others to also strive for their dreams as well…

  26. pachowww says

    I couldn’t even read any after number 4; I felt this craving inside for someone like this. What I did read was truly beautiful. You’re a lucky girl. 🙂

  27. Great post and I know exactly what you mean when you say “… to have two loving parents that I am very close with…”
    My parents are exactly the same and I love them so much. Today I know, you can’t take it for granted to grow up with such parents and I am proud and happy to be so close with them too.

  28. I do wish my father had taught me to kick ’em where it hurts. I was fourteen before I worked this out for myself, following an unfortunate incident on the school bus involving my face and a very recently shaken can of diet coke. Never again! 😉

    Great post! 🙂 Congrats on being Freshly Pressed, well deserved!

  29. Hey, I checked your blog for the first time today. But before writing any further let me tell you something about myself. I have been living far my family for the last 1 year as I completed my graduation approximately the same time you did.

    And now I am with my parents I came back to visit them for a festival. I can’t explain how much my dad means to me and after reading your blog I think I am now much closer to my dad. Now I plan to visit my parents more often.
    Thank you! You did a great job writing this… will remember this post forever and will be back to check new ones….

    • Thank you so much, I really appreciate your comment! As a writer, all I hope for, is that people will somehow connect with what I write.

      I hope you stay dedicated to visiting your family, I’m sure they miss you very much.

      Peace & Love

      • Right now I am trying to recollect all my childhood memories.. Visiting my family wasn’t in my priority list but now it is. All thanks to you! Keep writing…. 🙂

  30. I loved this post. Its must have been the best dedication to your Mom and Dad. Great work. Congrats for being freshly pressed.

  31. Loved this post- so glad to have stumbled upon it!! Glad to see another person who has the same values as me.

  32. I raised five daughters and your dad was right on these ten
    A boy made the mistake of beeping his horn when picking up one of my daughters so we had a little chat, needless to say he never beeped again. My daughters are the love of my life and now they tell me what to do. Life is grand. Great story kido.

  33. julie ross says

    A beautiful tribute to your father. My father was a fantastic dad, husband and friend, too. I have consciously done as you “threaten” to do and have taught my 17 year old son how to be a good husband, father and friend. His current girlfriend (and her mother!) already thank me. His future wife, will, too. And it is all thanks to my dad! Cherish every moment you have together.

  34. Beautifully written, thank you for sharing. Thank you also for a good cry as a lot of what you said reminded me of my own dad, who unfortunately passed away when I was 19.

  35. I am a father of a couple of daughters, one of which is approaching the dating age. It is inspiring to read about an awesome father. I hope to live up to the example he has set.

    • I’m sure you do a wonderful job! It was so hard picking just 10 things to write about, my dad has been a huge part of my life We definitely clashed a little bit during my “dating” age, but looking back, he was ALMOST always (*cough*always*cough) right about the guys that were wrong for me.

      Dad’s definitely know best.

  36. I’m super close with my dad, too. I loved your post, it made me think of a bunch of memories I have with my dad…I think I’ll go call him… 🙂

  37. Love it! I feel that way about my dad, my husband feels that way about his and I know that he hopes one day our daughter will feel that way about him.
    By the way, I love your bio too.

    • I’m so happy to hear that! It’s important to create good role models for our children (or in my case, my FUTURE children. I’m not really ready to have kids yet, but I know I’ve chosen a wonderful person to spend my life with).

      I’m all about good family values….AND ninja turtles. (Glad you liked my bio! haha!)

  38. Carley, this is so beautiful and so touching.. What a beautiful relationship you have. My father passed away when I was 18 so he didn’t get to see me at what I am at 27 almost 28.. You are so lucky to still have your daddy .. I wish both of you many many years of Memories!! Number 6 is identical to my tag line ony blog.. It’s great that you already understand this. You have an amazing teacher ; ) love & light to you & your family . EL

    • Thank you Elena! So Sorry it’s taken a few days, this was all quite overwhelming at first (in a VERY good way, of course). I was freshly pressed on Friday at work, so I could only answer comments in spurts!

      Your kindness is uplifting and I appreciate your well wishes. I wish the same to you, lots of peace and happiness! Come back soon!

      • Thank you for your reply beautiful! Congrats on being freshly pressed! You deserve it! Will be coming back for sure. Off to Morocco, Egypt & Turkey on Wed.

        Talk soon,


  39. Wow! What a great post! Thanks for sharing. 🙂 My dad was my hero. I was always appreciative of how he told me, “Do what you want to do in life. Find your passion and hone it, no matter what it is, and do what you love, because if you do what you love, you will never work a day in your life. Never listen to the naysayers or those who doubt you, because they are the ones who didn’t bother following their dreams.”

  40. Oh, what a dear, dear post. I’ve been blogging a lot about my father recently who died more than 30 years ago, when I was only 19. Your writing touches me deeply.

  41. nmjkemppainen says

    This post is amazing. You have a talent of writing your way to people’s hearts. Thank you for the experience!

  42. I love this post…You’ve inspired me to write more about my parents and the things they taught me that have carried me through my life journey, thanks for doing this.

  43. Carley, I really enjoyed reading your story – your dad sounds like the kind of dad I wished for, for my own children… You are VERY lucky!

  44. Thanks for this wonderful blog post. I’m a father of two daughters, and reading your post made me smile — and cringe, when you talked about dating (which is several years away, and I wish we could skip it entirely). You do your dad proud with this post, remembering all the good lessons he taught you, and putting them into practice.

  45. Lovely post..

    I just hope we all can learn from our fathers – their spirit, their integrity, their honesty and their zeal for life. They make us better human beings just by being by our sides and telling us that it’ll all be okay.

    Much love to you and your dad.

  46. sally says

    I found your blog first when you wrote about your mom – and was really touched by that post. This one is even lovelier. Like you, I was blessed with an amazing dad, somebody who loved me and watched out for me everyday. He died a few years ago and I still miss him like crazy. He and I were fortunate to have the time for a long goodbye, and so he died knowing how much I loved and appreciated him. It gives me a great sense of peace to know that. Your post is a great gift to your father – and a gift to yourself too. Love your writing!

  47. Stuart says

    Excellent post – touches the heartstrings!
    As a Dad with a teenage daughter, I can only hope I live up to the responsibility as well as yours has. The ‘giving permission’ (to kick) and the ’emitting a vibe’ are things I can so relate to!
    Remarkable insight – you easily deserve your Freshly Pressed!

  48. TonyMercado says

    Sometimes, a blog entry comes along that just gives you a warm feeling inside. It’s raining here in San Jose,California. But reading this post sure made things a lot more cozy. I’m sharing this one with my sister. Thanks!

    • Thanks for reading this AND going back to read the post dedicated to my mom. That means a lot to me. I am so fortunate to be surrounded by so many beautiful people.

  49. Carley,
    I’m holding back my tears because I don’t think I can explain to my 6 year old why this moved me so much. My dad has been gone for nearly 12 years. I miss him every day. You have beautifully summed up why. Thank you.

    • You’re so very welcome, I’m sorry to hear about your dad! I can’t imagine. I’m glad you felt touched!! Thank you so much for reading.

  50. I LOVE this. My Dad and I were really close and I can completely relate to “just keep digging” “make your free throws” and “that’s life” Those were awesome moments to share! Great post and Congrats on being Freshly Pressed, I’m sure your dad would love to know that he got you to the Main Page 😉

    Here’s my dad story in case your interested 🙂

    My Dad … The Filet Mignon of My Life

  51. This is such a beautiful post. I could relate to so many of the things you wrote and it almost made me feel like I was reading about my relationship with my dad. It really is amazing how much we can learn from our parents, and reading everything you’ve learned from your dad was really touching. Will make sure to check out the post you wrote about your mom too! Thanks for sharing and congrats on being freshly pressed!

  52. You are such a great writer! I love this! I love that you have such a great relationship with your father… he sounds like a great guy. Though I came from a family that was highly dysfunctional and cannot say that my biological family taught me how to be an empowered person, I recently remembered that I had a father figure throughout my early childhood that taught me the value of laughter, forgiveness and not taking anything too seriously… and if I got hurt, the value of dusting myself off and joining the game again. Really great post. This filled my heart with good feelings and smiles. Thank you. 🙂

    • Thank YOU so much, your comment is so inspiring! Despite your hardships, it sounds like you managed to stay positive. I’m glad you had somebody to be a good role model. Thank you for stopping by and reading!

      • You’re welcome and Thank you! I believe that even when life is lacking, we are always provided a gift to balance the percieved lack… sometimes we just have to dig a little to find the gem. 🙂 Have a lovely weekend and congrats on being freshly pressed!

  53. Oh Carly. How smart you are for your years…

    Here are the phrases I loved the most:
    “Just keep digging.”

    “Things cause us to be wasteful. Things break.

    The experiences we’ve had together are stored safely in the deepest spaces of my heart, not a moment was wasted, and they are truly unbreakable.”

    and of course, the family stories that no matter how often they are repeated, never cease to be hysterical…love it!

    Keep on writing.

    • Thank you so much for reading! I will definitely stop by and read your story about your father. Thank you for sharing your experience with me, after all, that’s what blogging is all about!

  54. Barbara @ Just Another Manic Mommy says

    beautiful post, beautifully written…you and your dad are lucky to have such a great relationship. and as the mom of two first graders I enjoyed number 1 the most!

  55. What a great, touching post! Dads are so important and I think that as a society, we overlook that importance. I too am blessed with an awesome dad (and an awesome mom) and I am so immensely thankful.

  56. I love this post, it really resonates with me. Especially this phrase in your second point: “I was fortunate to have a very understanding father, who was comfortable letting me live at home until I built up enough of a financial pin cushion, where I could afford my bills, my loans, AND rent.”

    I recently moved back home after completing grad school in another country; both my parents (but my dad especially, since he has a big enough house) have been very understanding and generous, allowing me to crash with them while I get my bearings.

    Now I miss my dad, haha. Perhaps I’ll give him a call…

  57. Now I’m trying to come up with things I learned from my father… I can’t think of any “life lessons” sort of things at all… but at least he taught me a couple of valuable skills… lighting fires… building bookcases… gardening – where would I be today, who would I be if he hadn’t taught me to love gardening? And to love books?

    • Those are still important things that you learned! It’s interesting how we absorb different things from the people around us. Thank you for reading!

  58. Aw I really loved this. Life is such an amazing roller coaster and it’s so amazing that you can recognize and appreciate where yours came from! I really, really loved reading this. What an awesome dad :)!

  59. Wow, what a post! I loved it. I can definetly relate to the majority of these. Dads are a different breed of person haha. The kicking them where it hurts was a lesson I learned myself, only it was a punch to the nose. Really enjoyed this, great work! 🙂

  60. Simply loved this post, Carley!.. May be because I love my father very much.. Miss him a lot.. Keep writing great stuff!! 😀

  61. meetkristenlavallee says

    Carley – Wow. It’s so inspiring to see such a loving relationship between you and your father. You’ll cherish everything forever.

  62. M Murphy says

    Great post! I really enjoyed reading it. Your dad sounds like an awesome guy you are blessed to have him in your life.

  63. What a beautiful post — your stories will stay with me for a long time, I’m sure. Especially the one about the bouquet of flowers your Dad sent you. Way to knock it out of the park, parent style!

    I’m lucky to have both a son and a daughter — they are very young — so it was interesting to read your post and imagine what my own children will think of their father and me as they grow. I think someday, if you have children, you’ll see that being “in the middle” is such an amazing place to be. My parents are now grandparents, and I have children of my own.

    I remember one time looking at my father holding my son and I just stopped. It hit me, the circle of life. Sounds like your own circle is tight-knit and solid, the way it should be. Thank you for sharing your lovely story.

    • Haha, my dad definitely scored some brownie points with the flowers. The circle of life certainly is amazing. I know my dad is in no rush to be a grand parent because I’m only 24, but when the time comes, I know both of my parents will be fantastic grand parents! Thank you for reading.

  64. I’ll echo the many other comments and say that this was terrific and actually brought a tear to the eye. My father passed away a year ago and he left me with not only some wonderful memories but teachings that I can live my life by (most of the time!), and reading this brought many of them back for me. It’s always important to reflect on those who mean the most to us, and thank you for sharing some of the wonderful things your father taught you with the world. Cheers.

    • I’m so sorry to hear about your father. I try to always remember to cherish my parents, because they won’t always be here, even though I HATE thinking about it that way. Thank you for reading! Cheers!

    • HAHA! Thank you “Anonymous Bloke,” that’s so kind! Both of my parents are wonderful people, I’m extremely lucky. Cheers!

  65. Wow! I have to say that was the best story I have read yet! I couldn’t think of a person more deserving then being freshly pressed and I am sooooo Excited to be a follower of yours;) Thanks for sharing it was really uplifting and sincere!

  66. I love the way you have expressed your appreciation to your loving and caring father..I am blessed as well to have a wonderful dad and all I can think of are the very meaningful memories with him. It’s just that, I do not see him often since me , my husband and son migrated to Australia in 2005. My family is far from me geographically speaking, but surely, still very very close to my heart and it will remain this way..forever! All the best to you and cheers from the world down under

  67. This is such a great post. It’s heartwarming at the same time humorous. Real life experiences are definitely the best stories. That boy did deserve that kick.

    • That’s still my dad’s FAVORITE story to tell at family gatherings. He just loves it! Thank you for reading. Most of my blog consists of real life, humorous tales, with the occasional serious topic mixed in. Thank you for reading!

  68. leena77 says

    Carley, this post is amazing. I come from a very close family and I have always been and forever will be a daddy’s girl. I am close with my mom too but there’s something different about a relationship between daughter and father. Sounds like you are truly blessed with a very wonderful dad. I am grown now with two boys of my own and I can honestly say, I don’t know where I’d be without my dad to help me raise them. Cherish every moment. You are one lucky gal 😉

  69. Very touching story told by a very grateful daughter. I wish someday my kids will write ten things that I taught them.

  70. I am writing this to you with tears in my eyes- what a good daughter you are! Your parents must be very proud of you. I have two girls of my own, I hope someday I can look at them and know I did half as well with them as your folks obviously did with you.

    • That is SO kind, thank you! I definitely always haven’t been an angel. I think both of my parents would admit that I was pretty mouthy during my adolescence, haha! Then again, what teenager isn’t? It’s all smoothed out. At 24, I am proud to consider both of my parents two of my best friends. I confide in them, trust them, and respect them more than anyone I know! I’m sure your children will too! Thank you for reading.

      • I have a beautiful fourteen year old who is giving me ulcers…I write a lot about her in my blogs if you ever have time to check it out. Meanwhile, you have a new fan!

  71. intuitiveone says

    fantastic. great tribute to your dad. I bet he has learned a few things from you as well.

  72. Thanks for the post.
    I’m a father. I have three sons, all grown up now.
    I had the wonderful experience of rearing my boys;
    but never had the opportunity of having a daughter.
    How I wish I had a daughter like you!

  73. How great that you wrote about your parents while they are still here to know how much you appreciate them! I wish I had done that. 🙂

  74. What a lovely homage to your father. ..I was smiling through your whole blog post.

    You are right…”memories are great than things”. I remember my dad making wine in the shed every fall. I would wander into my dad’s wine haven (the covered part of the garage) and he would turn off the grape crusher, and open the wooden spigot so I could have some freshly crushed grape juice. I would sit on the wooden crates my dad had stacked beside the giant wooden barrel and watch him while he worked….

    • It’s SO nice having memories like that to vividly look back on! I have so many memories of BOTH of my parents that I can remember as if they happened yesterday. It is truly something special!

  75. most days i make snarky comments about how mudane and repetitive 99% of “freshly pressed” are. can’t do that to this one or i’ll either go to hell or my father will beat the crap out of me. not sure which is worse.

  76. Carley, Carley, Carley- you certainly don’t need to find gravity. It seems your Dad has enabled your feet to be firmly planted on the ground, wherever you are on this planet. Maybe it was that education in Australia too, you can never underestimate us down under. Cheers Sue

    • Thank you so much! My time spent learning AND teaching in Australia were amazing. I suppose the whole finding gravity thing comes from being in my twenties, and balancing trying to have it all figured out, with going with the flow and seeing where life takes me.

      Thank you for reading!

  77. Mormon Soprano says

    There’s so much I loved about this post! It was delightful to read and I’m glad you were Freshly Pressed. I just might have to steal your idea and write a blog honoring my own Mom and Dad because I owe so much to them. As a child you never fully appreciate your parents until you move out. As a parent you can never hear enough times from your child the good you did for them. – Cheers, MoSop

    • That is TOTALLY fine. I hope you do take the time to write about your parents, family, friends…Spread all the love you can! I feel like in a world with so much negative news, we could all use a little uplifting.

      Thank you for reading!

  78. pichie vesagas says

    Your Dad’s wonderful! Your post reminded me to be thankful of my own father. We are both blessed! 🙂

  79. sam says

    love your post! i admire your relationship with your dad, such a blessing indeed.

  80. You’ve made a wonderful present to us all of a rich life, being reviewed by it’s occupant at such a young age with fine grace and warmth that more often comes from distance.
    Lucky family. I wish you more soaring adventures at every turn, forever.

  81. My dad and sister and I used to play ‘horse’. LOL. This was a really sweet article. I love the part about the roses. That was super-sweet. My husband and I moved 12 hours away from most of our family about two years ago. You just made me miss my daddy even more.

  82. Awwe :0 i have sevreal posts about my dad as weel, I know theyre the only guys in life you can trust and lean on to. 🙂 thanks for posting such. 🙂 wonderful.

    • Thank you so much for your sweet comment. I am lucky to have two wonderful men I can lean on. I am fortunate to be able to say that my best friend for the last three years, is also my boyfriend of a year and a half. He’s a kind, compassionate, gentle man, and I am definitely an advocate and living proof that there are good men in this world who treat women with respect.

      Dads definitely do hold a special, one of a kind trust!

  83. Reblogged this on Catholic Men Chicago Southland and commented:
    This is a reblog I found in Freshly Pressed, a part of the WordPress community. Carley’s words caused me to reflect on my own Father, and the Man and Father that I am. To be honest, I have been talking with Young Adult Ministry for a blog post about how young Catholic women view Men in our culture. Catholic or not, this post I think is a slam, dunk!
    Peace be with your spirit. – Frank

  84. mairzeebp says

    My Dad is my best friend. I really loved this. So much humor and heart and the photos were great. I love the one post college graduation. Thank you for sharing and from one really lucky girl to another congrats on getting such a fantastic Dad.

    • Haha! That picture from graduation is one of my favorites. We are two very sarcastic, light hearted individuals, and it’s nice that we share that sense of humor. Thank you for reading! I’m glad you also had the opportunity to share friendship with your father!

  85. Great post! Your dad is a lot like mine was. My dad taught me a lot and was my inspiration for my first post. It’s amazing what a difference having a supportive father in your life has.

  86. A very uplifting post! I really enjoyed the 3rd one, about dating. It reminded me of my father a bit. He threatened to build me a cage to put me in until I turned 30, one in which he had the only key because no “boy” was worthy of me, and I kept making bad decisions… You’ve inspired me to write my own remembrance of my father. I hope mine can be as sweet as yours.

    • HA! That’s SO funny! My dad never threatened me, he always let me make my own decisions, but he always made sure to tag on an, “I told you so…

      Even though I hated admitting it, he was usually right! He loves Blake though, woohoo!

      • Well if you like him AND your dad approves, you must have found one of the good ones! Hold on to him. I look forward to reading more of your posts and watching how it all works out. It gives me a bit of hope… 🙂

  87. Awesome post. Makes me wanna hug my dad when he comes back today (I’m just gonna do it!). At the same time, I think of how many of my daughter’s milestones my hubby has missed as he’s working overseas. I hope he’ll have enough time to make up for them before my daughter grows up.

  88. Your Father is as lucky to have you as you are to have him. My kids are too young to understand it yet, but I tell them that the only immortality a man needs is that which he leaves in the hearts of his children. Sounds like your Dad is already there… 😉

  89. After reading your post, I am crying now. I had very few great moments with my father.For reasons like some married couple realized they’re not meant for each other only after being married for 24 years. Complicated life, that is.
    Anyhow, this post is heart-warming and made me remember the rare happy occasions I had with my Dad. You are one lucky girl! I admire your determination too.Such an inspiring post! 😉

  90. wow….it’s one of the best blog i have ever read…i know the meaning of the words of father….he is everything for me….love u dad…
    and thanks to you Carley for sharing this with us…

  91. shysocialgeek says

    I shed real tears and not because I was slicing onions. Your father is an inspiration and you are a great daughter for recognizing that. Thank you for sharing. 😀

  92. hello, finding gravity,

    this post has loads of love, patience and understanding in it. and, it’s inspiring… ^^

    thank you for writing this and for sharing. best regards! 🙂

  93. lexielollipop says

    You are very lucky to have a very caring and loving father. I wish I had a Dad like yours.

  94. Saw the title and was like well here’s another 10 things type list, “I’m bored What the heck i’ll look.”. So glad I did, as a father of a 10 year old daughter going on eighteen (mentally). the jerk radar thing I swear is a father thing. My daughter told me during
    X-mas that she has a new boyfriend. I was like ah that’s sweet kiddo what his name? Noah huh OK. Then she went on to explain that he didn’t have any male friends and was kinda girlish (liked girls and girly things). Again I was like OK (radar goes from off to passive).. Then (Alice) my daughter told me that night he liked hanging out with her female friends (radar now on Full alert). I smiled and said kiddo I think he might not be the guy for you, “Why daddy?” she asked me innocently. It’s just one of those feelings your old man has and they are never wrong. Nothing more was said and two weeks later I get a call from Alice telling me, “Daddy Noah broke up with me (stifled sniffle from her). I gave her some more words of encouragement and she hung up happy.(radar offline) She calls me a week later and tell’s me she meet another boy and she really loves him (radar now to passive). Seriously this list has been very cute and made me smile and made my day err night.

    • *Sigh* I know, I know. The 10 things does become a little monotonous after a while. I’ve only done a few of them, but I always try to put a humorous spin on them, so they don’t become too obvious and condescending. Thank you so much for taking the time to read mine, and I’m glad you found a way to relate! Dad’s do have a remarkable intuition when it comes to other boys.

  95. Wow. This really makes me want to go give my dad a hug right now. Number 6 is sooo true. Makes me feel like I have to just go out there and make some more memories. I might just go ahead and make one of these lists, too. I’ve grown up with a special needs sibling as well, and that line about ““Your brother would have traded one of his good days for one of your bad days,” really broke me. So true and I TOO need to be reminded of that. Thanks for this awesome post!

  96. SBStreetStyle says

    Thank you so much for sharing this I can relate to it in so many ways. It’s such a well written and accurate post i could read it a thousand times and it would never get old or any less true. Although my parents divorced when I was only a week old and my dad passed away when i was 12,I am now 15, reading over everything your dad has taught you could not have reminded me more of what my dad had taught me. It brought tears to my eyes when you said that memories are unbreakable and that those memories are stored deep in our hearts because reassured me that i will never lose track of those memories…I cannot thank you enough for reminding what it was like to have a truly amazing father

  97. hi, your article is very touching. i worked hard to pay for my studies too…that’s because my dad was “somewhere out there” – he was always absent from home, and i had no idea where he was. it was too taxing for my mom to support both my bro and me all by herself, so i had to work hard to earn enough money to see myself through college. you have a WONDERFUL, GREAT, LOVELY DAD!!!!

  98. Thank you so much………..Its been a quick journey for me..When I read this I too thought about the lessons my dad taught me…Thank you so much.. I love my DAD…

  99. Omg, this was really touching! Parents do so much more than what we usually give them credit for. It’s wonderful to see you appreciate all the amazing things your parents have done for you 🙂 Oh and btw, I really liked your writing… I’m following you 😀

  100. Nothing means more to a parent than adult children who appreciate them and display their gratitude as you have done here. Well done!

    • Thanks Jane! I also wrote one of these for my mom. It’s funny how different they both are! Thank you for the support 🙂

  101. I think this is a lovely post…just so beautifully expressed. I have just discovered your blog, but I will DEFINITELY be visiting in the future! 🙂

  102. dad is the leader in the family, we must thanks to him that he gave us place to live, food to eat, and the meaning of life, we must thank you that we have a good dad. There ara many children that never see their dad,

  103. Danthonia says

    When I saw your post on “Freshly Pressed” tonight, I was trawling for interesting things to read while I care for an elderly client. I can gladly say, I was very impressed. There is a poignancy without being maudlin in what you wrote. Of late, I have spent more time with this gentleman than my own father. And yet he would not have wanted it any other way. He taught me that caring for others is a sacrifice well worth making.

    I’m not sure if you are currently in the States or here down under, but where ever you are I’m sure your dad is proud of the woman you have become. Keep up the good work.

    • Thank you so much for your kind words. I am currently in the US, living with my Australian boyfriend who moved here in June. We plan on returning to Australia in the next few years to spend time with his family.

      Caring for others is such a noble act, and it sounds like you are very passionate about what you do. Passion is such a wonderful thing. Thank you for reading!

  104. A wonderful post. I have a close relationship with my dad too, and now I have a 5 yr old daughter. These are great lessons.Thanks for sharing.

  105. I reblogged it! (peace) 🙂 It is an amazing post. I may not the “papa’s boy” but i really do enjoy being with his company and i really am missing the moments right now.

  106. This is a great posting – take it from me, a dad, that words like these are all that we need to know that we have done our work well! Read my blog on wordpress about the time for your history being now!

  107. I especially like advice #8… Very true that family is always there to make you laugh. My family is hilarious… And sometimes “outsiders” may not realize our type of humor

  108. What a fantastic post! I lost my dad to cancer this past September. I miss him every day, but the lessons he taught me live on in me, so he’s not really gone. Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt tribute to your father. You’ve made me smile and cry all at the same time.

  109. Dad says

    By the way…the song we were dancing to in that pic was “Cadillac Ranch” by Bruce Springsteen” (who else)

    Love Dad

      • My grandchildren come here all the time, and they love it. There is so much freedom and time spent in the outdoors is so relaxing with so many relatives around to help out. I like to travel all over the world, but still spend time exploring this province.

  110. You’re so blessed to have experienced a love from a dad..i grew up without a father but i’m still so thankful to God because I have an amazing mom..thank you for sharing. 🙂

  111. I’m a video game blogger and tend to only read blogs of the same nature. What I secretly am is a man who loves his father deeper than I would admit to myself. I salute you for this uplifting post.

    • Thank you! I’m happy my post was able to reach you…I meannn…Some of my fondest childhood memories MAY or MAY NOT revolve around playing Paperboy on Nintendo! So we can be buds. That’s all I got though, no crazy xbox or anything…just good ol’ fashioned Paperboy.

  112. its a great gift what you have all that love in your life , happy to see people happy like iam hope all the best for you just keep loving

  113. Such a loving post I grew up in a dysfunction home, but long for the love you had. I have a 6 month old baby girl named Victoria. My only hope is I can show her the love and warmth your dad showed you. This post made me teary eyed.


    • I’m so sorry to hear about your upbringing, but it sounds like you’ve taken it as a chance to grow and change your future, for which you should be commended. It takes a big person to look past their hardships for the better of others, especially their children. The love you long for will be given to you in 10 fold by your own daughter. Thank you for reading!

  114. My dad is the same way. He always found a way to teach me without having to “teach” me. Great post. Absolutely great.

  115. Cloonan says

    Your headline caught my attention…your writing of your father caught my heart. You’ve inspired me to write the things that I learned from my father. Those things one always knows but may not share with others. I lost my father two years ago this week. He’s on my mind everyday. Words bring memories. Thanks for your words refreshing my mind.

    • I am touched that you were able to connect to my piece, and I am SO sorry to hear about the loss of your father. Fathers can have such an impact on their children, and it sounds like yours had a very positive one. Wishing you peace and positivity this week!

      • Cloonan says

        You’re very kind…and I owe your father a thank you as well for raising such a lovely soul

  116. Thank you for sharing xx Very inspiring. Maybe your Dad should do a “guest post” and come up with 10 things I have learnt from my daughter! Bet you’d be surprised by what he comes up with :o)
    I just told my 7 year old that he’s taught me so much, like how to love more than the universe…and he said “you’ve taught me lots too mum.. Like not to hit my brother even when he makes me so cross I can’t move my fingers..and…get this one..how to dance naked when I want to make myself laugh!! I HAVE NO CLUE WHERE HE CAME UP WITH THAT ONE! I certainly don’t do it!
    Bet you’ll be a great parent one day! :o)

    • HAHA you know, this morning he said “I could write a post about “Carley Stories” but I wouldn’t have the time, it would take too long!” My dad and I seriously love giving each other a hard time (in good fun of course) he has so many funny stories about times that I drove him bonkers when I was growing up.

      It sounds like you’re a great mom! And your sons also sound very lucky to have you.

  117. 3 days into blogging and when i feel lost about tips to write an awesome blog..here i am reading this wonderful piece of art which would make any father proud..and all the lessons are so motivating..brilliant one ma’am

  118. this is such a wonderful and heartfelt post. I am currently studying abroad as well, and my dad came to visit me yesterday and I just sent him off. These past two days have been great, and now that I’m home alone this post just makes me feel so fuzzy and loved. Cheers to all the amazing fathers out there!

  119. As a father with 2 daughters and a son this article warmed my heart and as I sit here fighting back the tears I just think and hope that my daughters will remember me in the same light. I also know that there will be days they do not understand why I do what I do for them but that one day they will and it fills me full of hope for them and their future. Thank you for this.

    • You are so, very welcome! I’m glad you read it and it meant something special for you. I can assure you, that there will be times your daughters fight you on your decisions, but if you love them as hard as you can (ESPECIALLY when they seem to deserve it least), they will see all that you do for them!

      Have a lovely weekend! Cheers!

  120. Meredith says

    What a great tribute to a great guy. I bet this post inspired lots of people to think about their own dads, what those dads contributed to their lives, and maybe even inspired them to pick up the phone and say “hi” to Dad. Keep up the good work and make your dad proud!

  121. Eve Gold says

    Dear Carley,
    Thank you for your kindness found all through your blog and list of personal comments. You bring great inspiration to this cyber-community and likewise to our own hearts at home.

  122. Carley – really nicely written.
    Thanks for inspiring me as well as other people with this post but also your blog in general. I started to blog myself a couple of days ago, but i definitely have to learn much more 🙂 Maybe only maybe you will pay it a visit and leave a comment?

    regards from Switzerland,


    • You’re welcome, Steph! I wrote one for my mother as well, so I hope all of the moms in the building know how loved they are as well. Actually, the post I wrote about my mom happened to inspire me to write one about my dad. I’m so blessed to have such amazing parents.

  123. Diya says

    Really Beautiful and much inspiring. I have to learn much more too.

  124. Beautifully written. I wrote a few lines on my mom on her birthday and posted it on my blog. I will be writing a post on my dad on his birthday to let him know what he means to me although I fail to show much to him. 🙂 Parents are an amazing part of our life…we are truly blessed.

  125. reckless1978 says

    Great post Carley! I liked #3 the most “There is a man worthy of your attention but not this one…or that one” Really funny! You know, raising a child is not that easy. I have a four years old son and I try to teach him doing the right thing. I want him to be everything that I’m not and I know he’s going to make his own choices regardless of what I want. The good thing though, he’s smart and stubborned and I’m sure he’ll get what he wants from life. Anyway, it seems that your dad did a pretty good job.

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  126. fitz1 says

    Carley – As a father of 2 grown daughters this really moved me. I hope that I was as good a dad to them as your dad was for you. He set quite a high standard. You are one very lucky young woman!

  127. I’d love to think that my girl would have such happy memories of her Dad and so much to say. I guess I’m making those memories right now. Great Blog.

  128. marialla says

    You are truly a wise “old” . young woman. It Makes me realize how “luck are we who truly love and appreciate” our parents no matter what their general shortcomings may be. In the end we are all people and because none of us was sent to this world with a manual , whoever receives us has to just fumble through life trying their best to bring out the best in us. Hopefully in the end we , as the offspring , we can see the humanity of both ourselves and our parents as well as people in general. Sometimes it is definitely not easy but in the end worth the effort. Thank you and keep up the good work!! Mari

  129. Hi Carly, I have just found your blog and really enjoyed reading this post, it’s lovely the way all these memories are so valuable for both representing wonderful times in your life and important things you learned… 🙂 can’t wait for more posts!
    Sophie x

  130. blackshepherd says

    You’re a beautiful and graceful girl. I had tears in my eyes from the second paragraph. My Dad took me alone with him on a long drive from Massachusetts to Expo ’67 so I know I was 11 and I remember the pictures and my favorite butterscotch colored plaid shirt I was wearing when he photographed me photographing him! I also remember when we hit a pheasant while doing 120mph down one of those endless Canadian two lane highways and he didn’t flinch (poor pheasant I know but it could easily have been “Poor Us”…but it wasn’t. We went on to see the whole Expo and we sure did “bond” on that trip. He also took me to the ’63 NY World’s Fair and we saw everything cause we walked 1000 miles…funny how the little memories of bonding pop up during the telling of the stories. How we, my Dad and Mom and Me camped on the ocean in Maine in a tent and it was pouring rain and my mother was making cornbread on the coleman stove with a little black metal box that served as an oven…priceless…or the 8 ft tall kites my Dad would make that could pull a full sized man across Casco Bay leaving a wake with no visible signs of propulsion cause the kite was so high…digging clams ourselves in the mud and buying lobsters for our huge family Clambakes at Winslow Park Campground in South Freeport, Maine. My Dad passed away in 1973 when I was 17 and in a lot of trouble but I saw him the day before he died and he gave me my marching orders so I’d like to say: “Dad, I’m 56 now…6 years older that you were when you courageously took me on as a son…thank you Daddy! I love you forever…you were the best Dad ever….I remember you hitting balls with me and running down the 1st base line full tilt, tripping and landing on your belly and getting up like nothing happened…I remember Dad…and how you filmed all my Little games right up till I pitched the winning game for the pennant…I love you Daddy! Happy Saint Patrick’s Day and say hello to Mom!”
    As for student loans: It’s nothing short of a crime how the system is set up to put all the best and brightest into so much debt so early that they have no hope of true freedom…we must all band together to make these practices a thing of the past….kids should be matched up with a job before they even sign into a program and if the job isn’t there at the end…education paid for by the school/state….” Just brainstorming….but things are changing and young people, like you, will not be held down this way any longer…we won’t stand for it….”
    Thank you for this very stimulating post!

  131. CeCe says

    This is a great post. You’re very fortunate to have had such a wonderful father, and from the sound of it, he also has a pretty wonderful daughter.

  132. What a pleasure it was to read this. Your Dad’s a great guy, but then you already knew that. He raised a capable and gracious girl. Please be sure to show him this post!

    and now I have to go re-do my eye makeup – sniff sniff!

  133. I cried reading this. It’s absolutely beautiful. If only all parents could be so awesome! I’m going to go find the one you mentioned that you wrote about your mom, and then read the rest of your blog! 🙂 Congrats on being Freshly Pressed!

  134. This is the most amazing post! Your dad sounds like an amazing man and I’m so glad that you got freshly pressed because now your dad’s lessons will be shared with so many others! I know I’ll be sharing it with a few dad’s-in-training! Now I’m going to go read your mom’s!

  135. Excellent post, Carley. Your father is a prince among men, and you are a credit to him. Great stories, and terrific that you appreciate and acknowledge your dad. Thanks for sharing!

  136. sweetopiagirl says

    Reblogged this on Inspiredweightloss and commented:
    I enjoyed reading your blog, it was so full of information and I am going to continue to read it, love, romance!

  137. Really loved you including the quote… “Your brother would have traded one of his good days for one of your bad days.” It’s true!

  138. This is so beautiful. I didn’t have a dad like this but I married a man who I know will be this kind of father to our kids. Beautiful.

  139. What a lovely and well thought out post. I think that it is so important to remember where our roots are and I too am so fortunate to be blessed with two wonderful parents! Loved the post 🙂 Well done.

  140. Thanks for writing this! As a Daddy’s Girl, I feel like fathers are always being overlooked and are assumed to be deadbeats. When you are lucky enough to be raised by a good one, it’s worth sharing. I was raised by two wonderful parents but my father is something extraordinary, even my mother would say that. Thanks for a great read.

  141. I love family!!!!!!!!!! 🙂

    Making me cry over here *sniffle* You basically recapped my life except I didn’t travel abroad and I did music instead of alorts. But my parents were always at those football games, every night, and my dad would always take a vacation day when I needed him.

    Yay for family and memories, the two most important things in the world!

  142. LegosnEggos.com says

    Love, love, LOVE. I lost my dad a year ago, and these stories are similar to a few of my own and also my Dad’s lessons. Thank you for sharing! M

  143. There really is nothing more incredible than a relationship between a father and daughter 🙂

  144. Taryn Williamson says

    This is an awesome post! I love my dad and have learned a lot from him too. The first thing you mentioned, about “kicking him between the legs” really reminded me of my childhood. Gosh, I was bullied like you wouldn’t believe…and my dad’s advice was always to be mean right back. The teachers would say “just walk away” but my dad would say, “if they’re mean to you, kick ’em or punch ’em!” No boys ever messed with me after that. Dads give the best advice! haha 🙂

    Stay awesome(:

  145. What a lovely post! I just lost my dad in October, so this really spoke to me. Keep him close as long as you can. I’m 48, he was just turned 70 and the most surprising thing to me was how really painful it was–I somehow thought age would make me stronger–that I would somehow be more mature about it. What a joke–It doesn’t matter how old you are. I loved hearing how close you are! Fathers and daughters are really something special, aren’t they?

  146. alfiafadiyanti says

    OMG, touching and inspiring. Thanks for sharing 🙂 regards from Torono!

  147. This post is so lovely. I don’t identify with it at all growing up with a single parent. My mom passed away over a decade ago. I’m pretty young to be without parents but it gives me a unique and sharp perspective on EVERYTHING. Mostly, I hear people complaining about their parents and inside I think they have no idea what the flip side of not having them feels like. It’s beautiful for me to read this, and I know it must be so meaningful to your parents. To have a good thought is one thing. To say it is another. To scream it out publicly is worthy of a celebration (insert streamers and confetti here)! LOUD AND PROUD! 🙂

  148. I have a little girl and have always looked for some inspiration and direction, as there isn’t a manual to raising a little girl. Thank you for your beautiful words, they mean more than you will ever understand. Cheers

  149. Thank you Carley….. your story gives fathers like me hope. I hope one day my daughters write something similair when they are in their twenties. BTW, I gave my daughter similiar advice for dealing with a bully and I was called in to school to explain it too :).

  150. That was just so amazingly sweet that it brought me to tears…especially after raising my own handicapped daughter. It’s tough…but I have to remind myself…that I’m sure she would love to trade one of “my” bad days for HER good day. Thank you for the reminder. ❤

    • Thank you so much for sharing that with me! It definitely is something I keep in the back of my mind when I feel like I’m having a tough day. There are millions of people in the world that are suffering, alone, and hungry. Sometimes we all just have to step back and acknowledge the big picture. I appreciate your kind words! Peace & happiness to you and your daughter!

  151. Wow.Firstly your blog’s design is very nice.And I guess you had a nice experience with this stuff..!! 🙂
    By the congrats for making into “freshly pressed”.

  152. Hi, Carley, this is so inspiring! I really felt the bond you have with your father. It’s such a great thing to have that kind of relationship. I am so blessed also to have a father who would always inspire me and brought me to where I am now. He is a man of few words but his actions will always prove his love for our family. I congratulate you and may God continue to bless you, you father and your family that you may inspire more people like me and like the rest of us who read your post. =)

  153. This melted and caused my heart to swell, one happening right after the other. It’s a beautiful recollection of how your dad has worked his way into your life, even though one could say that should have been a given. But I can see, and say, that you;re fortunate to have a dad like yours. Cheers to him and your family, and to all great dads out there, including mine. 🙂

  154. Ahmed says

    Lovely and thoughtful post. Brought back memories of my dad.

    Cheers and keep it up.

  155. aktifistri says

    Hi there! When I see the title of this blog, I felt a big move to write something about my father. When I start reading..the first lesson paragraph..i felt touched by how your dad taught you. More reading brought my emotional experience to the level of feeling moved, envy you for having such close and sweet relationship with your dad, and then teary as I apparently found a lot deep lesson and impression from my died father. As I finished reading I knew that I have to write something about my beloved father..a guy that I missed so much a lot of times!! I should write about him just so I don’t hide my love to him, because he deserves to see that from wherever he is now. That he was a great father to me, no matter how awkward and inexpressive he was about his feeling to us! However, we both are lucky indeed for being raised by great fathers in their own ways. Thanks for your very inspiring blog, findinggravity! Warm regards.

    • Thank you so much for taking the time to explain your emotions and thought process while reading. I think it would be a wonderful thing to express your feelings toward your father. After all, we are only on this earth for so long. We only have the time we spent here to let the ones we love know how much they mean to us!

      • aktifistri says

        so true! thanks for your positive vibes.

  156. Tony says

    Thank you for sharing this story. Its a page exactly from my life right now and my two daughters, we are living it. I will forward this story to them as inspiration. Thank you again!

  157. A loving father and an understanding daughter.
    I feel all the lessons you learned him are useful and great (except for lesson one- I differ on just that one). The way your parents let you grow up independently is admirable.
    I am really surprised that you are able to write such a piece at this age because people need to be in their late 30s or 40s to say these things. Your Daddy is really fortunate!

  158. Lovely post. I wrote something similar about the gifts I received from my father called “This too shall pass.” But I’m an old woman and I’m expected to be reflective. It’s nice to see such introspection and gratitude in a young adult. Thanks for writing this.

  159. wow, that is an awesome tribute to a great dad… someday i will write one too coz my dad is my greatest hero too 🙂 — all the way from India 🙂 🙂

  160. Christine says

    ❤ Love it! Made me laugh and cry!
    Can't wait til next Christmas!! Haahaaa

  161. Beautiful blog and truly inspiring writings. Please send my best regards to your dad and tell him that he’s a very cool guy. I hope I can be as cool as him in the future.

    Keep on writing, greetings from Indonesia 🙂

  162. This had to make your dads heart swell. The thing that makes a parent perfect is when the child realizes that God gave her the perfect parents for HER. Thanks for sharing. My kids are young still but I will remember your stories for when my heart is breaking and they have gone away that I can still go and see them because they may not realize that they need a visit too. Please stop by my new site. It may make you laugh coming from a parents perspective.
    I am trying to give people a place to go and read a short story that makes them smile, laugh, think, love, cry or cry laughing. A story that everyone can relate to because we are all part of some kind of family. A place to go on your mobile when you are sitting in the car drop off/pick up line and you have read the news and now need something light and smile.
    I hope you enjoy.
    Read, “I forgot to tell them to keep their heads out of the toilet” 😉

  163. That’s great to have a lovely parent, coz without them it will be hard to deal in this hard and beautiful life!
    Recently my brother had done a dangerous accident, and it was in difficult situation…but I remembered how my mom leaves his meals; refuse to sleep, she was just thinking about him, I don’t know …he wanted to support her son ..to be near with him, even if it’s forbidden when he’s in reanimation box in hospital, i want to cry when I think about it…so thanks for all mom and all dad, and we hope to pay you back (even if we can do it) your sacrifices!!!!
    here is my post about both my great parent, I want to share with you…. ==> http://badrfoot.wordpress.com/2011/07/07/my-lovely-parent/

    thks again for your lines!!! 🙂

  164. Just, wow! I love your post! I’ve never commented, but I just had to on yours! It was entertaining, really easy to read and understand (English isn’t my first language), and was just lovely! You are so blessed! 🙂 Hope you don’t stop posting and sharing inspiring and quite helpful posts 😉 Good luck with all your endeavours. I know I don’t know you, but your post just made me feel connected in a way and inspired me to write. Thank you for posting this! God bless! x

  165. Hi Carley. I am Saadet from Turkey. I like your post really it s beautiful and entraining.
    I think a lot of people have similar memories and different events =))
    Thanks for your sharing…

    • Hello to you all the way in Turkey! WOW, that is so cool, that people so far away are reading what I write. So humbling. Thank you for reading!

  166. Fantastic! Thank you for taking the most important thing – time and writing these feelings down. As a father and at a stage with a 14 yr old some times it is easy to lose sight of those moments that are appreciated. Thanks for being an inspiration to other young adults to look back, appreciate and work at making those relationships strong. A wonderful job to both your Mum and Dad for raising such a positive adult that isn’t afraid to take ownership and learn from others. All my best!

    • What sweet things you’ve said! Thank you so much for taking the time to leave sch a sincere comment. I’m sure you are a wonderful father. After all the time my parents have given me over the years, it was the least I could to .Cheers!

  167. That’s a good post. I’m father to a girl, just turned fourteen. Someday – not now – perhaps she’ll read your post and learn good things. Meantime, congratulations to you and your dad both!

  168. Pipa says

    My father has taught me a lot of those things to and I love this post. It is really nice that you dedicated a post all to you dad and what he has taught you over your life. I haven’t graduated college yet but I still listen to everything my dad has taught me and this post is really sweet.

  169. Congratulations on being freshly pressed!

    I love this post. It’s so well written and so thoughtful, I can see the love oozing out of each space between the words. You’re a very lucky girl, but of course you already know that!

    Thanks for sharing some of your father’s wisdom.

  170. I really enjoyed this post! It reminds me of my father and everything he has taught me. I think there is a special bond between daughters and fathers that goes without saying. My father also sold baked goods in the middle of other mothers with the PTA and the chorus board at my high school. Wonderful, touching post!!!

  171. Hi Carley,
    Thanks for this. What a nice and ‘mature’ post for such a young woman. Your family sounds amazing, and they obviously have done a good job with you.
    Just in case, keep a back up of pics to go with your memories. You won’t believe how quickly we forget anecdotes and places as life goes on…

    • Great suggestion! Taking pictures is one of my favorite things to do, Maria! I am always the person with the big bulky camera at the party, haha. My family and friends probably thing I’m obnoxious, but I love being able to document memories. Thank you for reading!

  172. My dad never told me much, but he taught me a lot. He’s the best human being I’ve ever known, he’s the kindest heart.. and something about him makes me do the right things and good things. Well.. I can’t really express myself totally. But yes, dads are great, ain’t they?

  173. SOMEONE is getting whatever she wants at Christmas this year, I’ll tell you that!
    Very touching post, young lady.

  174. blackwatertown says

    Beautiful. Wonderful appreciation of a special relationship.

  175. Carley: absolutely awesome post. Thank you so much for sharing those lessons with all of us. You’ve made me think about all those things I’ve learned from my parents and I haven’t taken the time to think about, write, and appreciate properly. I’ve had a wonderful family, and you’ve made me see I should take the time to let them know how grateful I am for all what I have learned with them.

    Please, keep writing, as your writing is amazing and inspiring. Good luck on everything you do. And If you ever happen to come to Panama City, Panama (with your dad, Blake, or anyone else), please give me a shout. I’d be honored to meet you! And I’d also LOVE it if my 15-year-old sister, Carla, could meet you. She is awesome, kinda like you. =)

    • Thank you, Chris! I truly appreciate your wonderful comment. I’m glad I was able to help you reflect on your own experiences, because that is the reason I write! Feel free to poke around on my blog, you might find some other pieces you like! I’ll be sure to check out your blog as well. All the best!

  176. Your blog is really good. I lost my father last March (he was 78) and I miss his wisdom and phones calls everyday. It is great you have these lessons and memories because it really helps after they are gone. My mother is 73 and after 54 yrs of having a constant partner, well, it is hard. Thankfully she has a very active social life and my sister and I to help out. It is such a joy to read about someones relationship with their father that is so good!

    • Thank you so much for reading! I also wrote one of these for my mother a few months ago, and the link is included at the top of the post. Both of my parents have made a huge impact on my life, and they have given me a great foundation to be a parent someday when the time is right! I appreciate you taking the time to read and relate to my story. Cheers!

      • you know u r so lucky from the last two years my Father is not living with us,,,,,,,,
        he live somewhere else,,,,,,and never ever call us,,,,,,
        Glad to know about ur father
        Stay Blessed with ur Family

  177. this moved me. i love my father so much. hes my best friend. we are blessed to have a dad that is so wonderful.

  178. Wow, what a tear jerker. Such a great topic, your father sounds like a wonderful man. Thanks for sharing such an awesome post! It really has me thinking about how greatful I am for both of my parents aswell.

  179. Wow so many comments since yesterday when I posted. Your blog is being displayed on WordPress’ front page and hence the response I guess!

  180. anapplebee says

    This is such a lovely post. I also have a strong connection with my loving parents and one day I also hope to take what I have learned and apply to my own parenting skills. Awesome post!

  181. I’d just like to say that this was one of the best blog posts I’ve ever read. It’s nice to read something well-written that’s just about appreciation. I’m also very close to my Dad, so it did bring a little tear to my eye. Congrats on making freshly pressed, you deserve it.

  182. Just stumbled across your blog and this was the first post i read…so so moving and beautiful – sat here in tears!

    Wish my relationship with my dad could have been as happy and fulfilling as yours is…

    I hope (one day) that my children will cherish their father in the same way and appreciate everything he does for them in the same way you do…

  183. Wow, I hope my daughter will grow up to say the same things about me and hopefully. My lessons to her will stick 🙂

  184. My father passed away in April 2010, and he was my best friend. Reading you post just brought back a lot of memories of some of the things he taught me. Thanks for reminding me of how he lives on in me 🙂

  185. What an amazing post! Thank you so much for sharing bits and pieces of your remarkable relationship with your father. It will be 20 years next week since I lost my father and reading your post made me think of all those special daddy/daughter moments that we sometimes take for granted. I look forward to reading more of your blog. Keep up the great work!

  186. as dad of two beautiful daughters, I appreciate you appreciating your fathers wisdom. And someday you may have something written about you showing the same love.

  187. Great post. I wholeheartedly agree with ‘the message’ in the first thing that you learned from your father. Girls, regardless of age, need to be taught that lesson (to stick up for yourself) from day one.

  188. I LOVE this post! It’s brilliant and wonderful, makes me feel like I’m going over your youth life with your dad, especially the “Kick ‘Em Where It Hurts” parts. Too bad I can’t expect a male blogger to write about his father, as I hope I can relate better, but actually you already done much more than what a guy can do. All thanks to your great dad and mom. Thanks for sharing your dad’s wonderful messages. Waiting for another great posts from you! 😀 cheers.

  189. “I wouldn’t want to date me if I were a guy, and I’m glad I never had to go through the process of shaking my dad’s hand the first time.”

    I can totally relate! Lol. Having a father and two older brothers definitely made it even harder for me to go on dates. But then having them around gives you a sense of security that no other guys could ever give. Such a lovely post 🙂


  190. jcalanayan says

    Wonderful Post! I blog about life with my dad, so this was right up my alley. Thanks for sharing.

  191. I enjoyed your list and the reasons that go along with it. I think your Dad did a wonderful job in giving you life experiences with the right amount of support to help you become a wonderful person. I think all Dad’s should in their own way try to be that kind of Dad for their daughters. A father’s success should be measured by the love that the daughter has for life when she is out on her own. It is obvious to me from your writing that your Dad was and is a success.

  192. shinganist says

    This is a great post. Your dad sounds like a great man that did an awesome job being a father. I don’t know you or your siblings, but it seems like you guys came out pretty good. Inspirational. I’ll keep those things in mind when I raise my kids.

  193. Great post, made me miss my dad and all our moments together, definately going to give him a good morning call tomorrow 🙂

  194. Some really nice stories/memories/lessons. Number 4 about the volleyball and flowers sounds especially touching. You are lucky to have such a father.

  195. Thanks for this post. My dad is very special to me and your post reminded me a lot of him. He seems like a pretty fantastic guy-it’s amazing how much someone can shape our lives.

  196. Joy says

    I am crying at work. This is a wonderful tribute to your dad. What a great post!

      • Joy says

        I live 8,000 miles away from family right now and I miss my family. I have a great dad at home but really as a mom I hope I can leave memories like this to my (3 year old) daughter. 🙂

  197. Hi Carley, you’re a stranger to me but I must say that I really love this blog of yours. Just the first few paragraphs really melted my heart. I think you are great and as well as your father! More love – Nel

  198. Carley, this is the first post I’ve read of yours– you had me at “that’s my girl” (cue big fat tear drops from yours truly!) Really beautiful job paying tribute to your dad. He must be so proud to have raised such a sweet kid 🙂

  199. Great post! I love my dad to bits and pieces too. This makes me more excited to be a father in the future, to have such a positive impact on my would be sons and daughters. 🙂 God Bless!

  200. I was teary-eyed after reading this. My dad passed away 2 years ago and I am only 18 back then and after reading this, I just think about the hundreds of memories I would never be able to make with him. You’re so lucky to have a father like him 🙂

  201. Definitely an article worth reading. Brings back memories and it felt good. Thanks.

    My dad thought me how to court a girl [I was 6]. I didn’t learn anything from that though.

  202. What a lovely heartwarming post:) I loved your writing especially the part about chocolate covered cherries. Humour always gets me through the worst of situations too. I absolutely loved every word written:)

  203. A genuine and heartwarming post-thank you for sharing. What you learned from your Father is extremely important and wise to recognize, understand, remember and utilize in life. Great post.

  204. Hey ! I loved your post ! I’m a daddy’s little girl and no matter how old or successful I will grow to be I think I will ALWAYS be that way 🙂

    Really enjoyed reading your post , keep writing – very heart warming !

    Cheers !

  205. Its absolutely wonderful what you have written up there.. My eyes got wet just a bit.. Your family sounds amazing and could be a source of constant inspiration for many around you and is definitely one for me..
    All my best wishes to you and your family
    Special regards to your Dad
    Take care
    All the best 😀

  206. What a beautiful, heart-felt post. Sometimes I think we don’t realise how lucky we are to have wonderful family. It’s so lovely to see how much you appreciate them and it reminds others to do the same.

  207. Wonderful, we should always be thankful to our parents and say the magic word ” i Love you” as often as we could, because they were the reason we exists and able to see the beauty of the world.

  208. Truth: I started reading this last night and had to finish this morning because I didn’t want to cry and have to explain to my parents why I was hysterical. Seriously beautiful post. Kudos to you on FP.

  209. I absolutely love this post! It is so touching and insightful, your father must be very proud and happy to have you as a daughter! This article made me think about my father and what lessons he taught me.

  210. This is a really good read for me, Must admit that you are one of the best bloggers I ever saw.
    This post made me miss my daddy!

  211. Raj Sangam says

    Just stumbled here. very nice post and makes me nostalgic about my own dad

  212. sentimental sentimental piece. lessons well learnt. I m sure anyone who reads this shall be overwhelmed at the impact parents have on our lives…that too in the age where individualism is the norm and freedom is some anthem of sorts!


  213. AnitaAnswers says

    You stuck a love arrow in my heart. The loving sentiment in tribute to your Dad opened up a river of gratitude for my Dad who is now deceased. He taught me so much about life, as did yours, which I must one day share.

    Thank you.

  214. Really enjoyed this post – I’m still fairly new to the blogging world, but I can see why you have so many followers/comments. Definitely something to aspire to. I look forward to reading more! Thanks! ~Tiff

    • Thank you Tiff! I really appreciate you taking the time to read my blog. I’ll pop over to yours and check it out as well. I’ve only been in the blogging world for about 2 months! Well, that’s not entirely true…I had a life journal when I was like 14…but we’ll pretend that isn’t the case because it’s embarrassing haha!

  215. I really needed to read this post this morning, thanks so much for this! I look forward to reading the rest of your blogs and many more to come. You’re awesome!

  216. Hi there 🙂

    Awesome blog post, it was a nice moment reading it, thanks a lot 🙂

    Take care,


  217. carol says

    I LOVE your entry. It is so heartwarming and sweet. kudos to your dad for being such an awesome dad. You’re so very lucky 🙂

  218. yen says

    Oh wow, this is such a sweet and wise post! You sure are blessed with one amazing and loving dad. I loved the picture of you and your dad during your graduation day.:)

  219. I LOVE THIS POST! You sound like you have a great foundation. I am so inspired to recognize my folks more in my posts. Thanks for sharing

  220. This is a great post! It sounds like you have an amazing relationship with your father and that he is a very wise man! I especially like the advice: “kick’em where it hurts”.

  221. I love your post! I’m so blessed to be my dad’s daughter. I wouldn’t want anyone else, and I know I wouldn’t nearly be the person I am without him.

  222. What a great post! I especially liked ‘Keep digging in.’ I can just imagine you having that note that come with the flowers your Dad sent.

    I had a great relationship with my father who died in 2010 and your writing made me so happy that you approeciate your fad while you have him. One of the very last things I found in my Dad’s house when I was clearing it out was a letter I wrote him a few years back thanking him for everything he had done for me and one of my most precious possessions in life is a letter he wrote me when I was about 23 telling me that ‘regrets are the hardest things in life to bear.’ He was right and I did my utmost, as you are, to ensure that you treasure every minute and don’t have regrets.

    Should you wish to read my blog from Ireland, you will find me on http://socialbridge.wordpress.com

    Thamks again for a wonderful read!

    • Honestly, this was all pretty much stream of consciousness. I wanted this to be pretty raw and open, so I didn’t revise any of the content after I finished writing it. All I did was edit it structurally and fix typos and tenses where needed. Thank you so much for reading!

      • Gah! Then my stream of consciousness needs to hit the gym and get into shape! Lol.

        And of course! Your blog seems like a ton of fun to read. 😀 So I subscribed!

  223. Wow, I almost didn’t read your post because my dad (and I use that term loosely) abandoned me and my 2 brothers when I was only 8 years old. We joke that he went to get milk and just never came back. Fortunately, I never thought of myself as a victim which I believe paved the way to find an incredible husband. And as I am now the mom of 2 incredible kids who absolutely adore their dad!
    And, you’re right about the material things not being important. In fact, you’re more right than you even know. Last year I was diagnosed with cancer. I don’t know how I would have gotten through it without the love and support of my family.
    What your parents did was make certain that their legacy lives on. They have realized in you what all us parents want, and that is to raise strong, independent, loving children.
    I’m glad I read your post!

    • Robin, you’ve literally brought me to tears. That’s a hard thing to do, especially considering how many people I’ve made cry with this post in the last four days! I never expected this post to reach this many people, or that people from so many different walks of life, family backgrounds, and even countries would care enough to read it.

      You are a true testament to a survivor on both accounts, and I am more than honored that you chose to stick with my post and read it all the way through. It sounds like you are a wonderful mother, and your husband and children are more than lucky to have you.

      Thank you so much for sharing your story with me. Wishing you all the peace and happiness I can muster. All positive vibes! 🙂

  224. A bittersweet posting for me, as I lost my Dad 14 years ago.There isn’t a day that goes by that I don’t miss him. I am happy you have such fresh, vibrant memories, because at 52, I have the memories but they get a little worn. The love, as Partick Swayze said in Ghost, always stays with you.

    Good Post!

  225. xidneyxhin says

    I just can’t my tears to fall when I read this blog. It means something in my life. I was a daddy’s girl before until I went into college. Everything changes as I’ve entered a college life, things were not the same anymore between me and my dad. I wish I could turn back the times when I have a moment with my dad. I miss him so much. I’m not expressive with my affection to my dad… but, I Love him so much! :’)
    Thank to this blog. This blog helped me a lot to my relationship with my dad.

  226. xidneyxhin says

    I just can’t help my tears to fall when I read this blog. It means something in my life. I was a daddy’s girl before until I went into college. Everything changes as I’ve entered a college life, things were not the same anymore between me and my dad. I wish I could turn back the times when I have a moment with my dad. I miss him so much. I’m not expressive with my affection to my dad… but, I Love him so much! :’)
    Thank to this blog. This blog helped me a lot to my relationship with my dad.

  227. Lovely post..thanks for sharing…reminds me of some of the things i missed and some of the things which are now getting refreshed in my mind… 🙂 Reblogging it… 🙂

  228. Wonderful post. I am a fellow blogger and came across your post. I’m so glad I read it. We have very similar relationships with our fathers and it’s special. We are blessed. My dad has been taking me on father/daughter trips since I was 12 and those are the memories I hold so dear.

  229. I lost my dad February 2010, almost exactly 2 weeks after his only time meeting the parents of my then-boyfriend (now husband). It was the first and, unbeknownst to us at the time, the only time he’d spend with my now in-laws. I knew he already adores my husband who was like him in several ways. But, especially after that dinner, we all knew we’d be family.
    Reading your post brought me tears even while at work. Haha. It was incredibly beautiful and heart-warming and brought to mind the various life lessons my “Papito” (Daddy, in Spanish) instilled in me. Thank you for this and Congrats on being Freshly Pressed. 🙂

  230. bluefiadiarries says

    It’s really different when you have a father! I miss my Papa.

  231. Carley,
    I LOVED this post!! I am a Daddy’s girl like none other and this made me tear up a little. That’s life, grrr…I heard that so many times growing up and still do but he’s right. Thank you for sharing these special memories with all of us 🙂

  232. A. S. Ellis says

    Carley, this is beautiful. Your father, I am quite sure, is immensly proud of his accomplished and grateful daughter.

    This is one of the most deserving posts I have had the pleasure of reading on Freshly Pressed. Truly.


    • Thank you SO much, what a kind thing to say. I am so shocked and energized by people’s responses. It means the world to me that people have not only taken the time to respond, but to actually SHARE their stories with me. It’s been a brilliant exchange. I wish I could stay freshly pressed, NOT because I want more readers, but simply because I love hearing how people have connected.

      So thank you, again, for being one of the many, many people to make this experience as stellar and meaningful as it’s been.

  233. Wow Carley! I cried reading this. As someone who lost their parents @ an early age, it’s awesome to see how much you appreciate your parents, and it seems as though you always have, because so many of us don’t until later in our lives. Some of us don’t appreciate them until it’s too late. I especially liked the lesson about memories being better than physical possessions.

    I also really liked your statement, “You have to take control over your own life, because if you don’t, your hardships will cause you to lose your mind all together.” That’s very insight for a 24-year-old. Thank you for sharing this post!

    • Thank you SO much. I am still so bewildered at the personal, wonderful, touching comments I keep receiving.

      I lost my brother when I was 10, so I learned early on to appreciate my family, because anything can happen at any moment that can cause you to lose them. I’m definitely not perfect, and we’ve had our disagreements, but at the end of the day we all just want the best for each other.

      Thank you for sharing your story. I am so sorry to hear about your loss, but it sounds like despite the tragedy you’ve come across, you’ve risen to become a kind hearted soul.

      Wishing you lots of peace, happiness, and positivity!

  234. {lv} says

    Your post really resonated with me. It’s thoughtful, nostalgic, and beautiful. It reminded me of my father and the things I’ve learned from him. Thank you for reminding me about the beautiful relationship between a father and daughter. I miss it and when I hear/read about other people’s dads, it brings a smile to my face because it reminds me of my own appreciation of my father even though it’s been years since it’s passed away. Lovely post and memories!

  235. I cam across your blog at Freshly Pressed. Congrats on making that. You made me shed a tear or two. It doesn’t take a personal tragedy or difficulty to be called a strong woman. People like you who put family first, who work hard, and have a wonderful heart too, are strong women. You are an inspiration.

    Loved your post.

  236. You’re article is pure, and written with honest emotions. It made me stopped for a while, and simply recall the memories I had with my dad. 🙂 He also taught me the value of money, to give back to the community, and love what you have.

  237. weordkrasa says

    you’re lucky to have your daddy around 🙂 and i guess the world is as lucky too to have someone like you appreciate the lessons taught to you by your father. 🙂

  238. Thanks so much for sharing! My own dad has been gone for over six years, and I am tearing up reading about the love you have for yours–and, clearly, the love he has for you. You are both blessed beyond measure. You are right to place more value on relationship than things–and you have true wealth in your parents and in the lessons you have gleaned from them.

    Great post!

  239. What a beautiful subject for a post! Love the memories you’ve shared with us here; your Dad sounds like someone who really thinks about the lessons he wants to teach you, and who achieves the balance between parent and friend with grace. Was there anything in particular that inspired you to write this post now? Or has it been brewing for a while?

  240. Very touching post…. Loved reading it… Remind me of my childhood and my dad.. Sweet memories and valuable lessons of life that we got…

  241. What a beautiful post and you’re a lucky woman! I have similar stories and memories of my father and I hope I can raise my son to be as a good a man as he is! Thank you for making me cry (in a good way) first thing in the morning!

  242. That is a post that made me smile today 🙂 It’s a nice thing to know that family that are unlike mine actually exist (me and my parents have a shitty relationship).
    I like how you shared all those memories with people, and you threw in a little bit of what you learned through your life 🙂

  243. God! You worked 70 hours a week! I’m mathematically-challenged but i do understand that this is what we call, ‘Hard Work’. I-SIMPLY-LOVED-YOUR-BLOG.

    Well, i’m gonna share your Blog with my friends, and i’m sure, they will also love this Blog.

    And, i believe i’ve also joined your ‘Followers’ List’.

    Keep on Blogging!

  244. I love this post! If you’re lucky enough to get a good dad, you’re set for life in my opinion! (Coming from another 20-something with an awesome dad)

  245. EmmaMc says

    What a beautiful dedication to your father. Sometimes we just don’t remind ourselves enough of what our parents mean to us. Made me a little teary reading this at my desk!

  246. A wonderful, wonderful story. what a great list. What a great Dad! he loves you so much! I think I like the memories over money one the best. Now I have to read about your mother!

  247. ecigarsmoker says

    This is such a tear-dropping article… pardon me but I can’t help recall my dad upon reading this and how much I regret I didn’t appreciate him all too well when he was with me.. Though, I couldn’t relate on the first three (I guess it’s different with men!) , the other 7 was somewhat significant. Too bad, I didn’t quite get it at first (as I was really stubborn then), especially the value of money. And even with all the wrong choices, he was always there accepting me in open-arms. Too bad, I don’t have him anymore with me but I guess I’ll just have to reminisce on our memories. Many thanks for these simple reminders!

    • Aren’t we all stubborn sometimes?! I suppose you wouldn’t have to worry about kicking ’em where it hurts haha. I’m so glad you found a few things to relate to in this. Thank you so much for reading.

  248. Lotto says

    Wow Carley. What did you do? What did you do to me? I really feel like I am very close to you and you are very close to me. What did yo do to me?

  249. Loved reading this. I found you through WP somewhere and sitting here all the way over in Scotland in front of my own laptop I just really loved reading it, what a cool Dad. I’m a mum to two girls and as my own Dad died years ago I’m acutely aware of the special father-daughter bond. If my two ever write something even close to what you’ve written here about their own Dad I know he’d be over the moon! Cheers, Caroline 🙂

  250. Wow, what a wonderful Dad. You are so blessed to have him. I am trying to write a list of reasons to be grateful for my own Dad. So far it’s: conception, food, education, vacations, sense of humour…. hmm I’m running out. Will keep trying. Thankfully I do have some lovely male friends.

  251. Love this post! I am a Dad or two girls (11 & 6) and I find myself trying to share much of your Dad’s philosophy with my own children. Was a sweet time reading and feelng how much you love your Dad and family. Thanks so much for sharing this really super great post!

  252. It’s such a very inspiring post. I am moved by all the lessons that your father have taught you and of course with how you as a person have become. I can see quite a few similarities in the list of what I’ve learned as I grew… I just hope I was as close to my dad as you were 😦 Very inspiring post. Very heartwarming.

  253. daysofneurosis says

    Great post, I have also been really stroke by my father. He taught me a lot, even if I’m still trying t find out all the lessons.
    Your writing is very nice.

  254. Hi Carley, I loved this post. The anecdotes you had in it were just the right dose. I wish I can write the same way about my dad soon, just that I get choked up with too much emotions when I try. My dad passed away after I graduated from high school and how I wish he could have stayed on until I was ready enough to let him go. Thanks again for the nice post. Cannot wait to read the one about your mom. 🙂

  255. God,
    I’m 53 (a few months off 54) and my Dad still treats me like his little girl.

    He’s 77 now and Mum is 71 so now I do a lot of “stuff” they used to do for me…
    Stuff like looking out for them, dealing with the scum bags at the time-share resort that they bought into without telling us a few years ago, booking all their holiday flights and accommodation to Cyprus each November and to Malta every February so we can go and meet up with them. I’ve surprised them a couple of times in the past by turning up at their holiday hotel without any notice 🙂

    I phone them pretty much twice a week – they are still in UK and we’ve been living in Cyprus for the last 8 years without having been back to our “home land”.

    I worry about what will happen when the time comes that one or both will not be able to travel for much longer and of course, if something happens to one of them. My parents have never spent more than 6 days apart from each other….. Other than when my mum was in hospital having me and after the loss of 2 stillborn boys, again after me. I dread the time and wonder what will happen to the other. My mum is quite resilient, a creature of habit so I reckon she will continue doing exactly what she is doing now – but my dad, well that’s another story…. Only time will tell but I really do not want it to come.

    I too recall coming home from school one day in tears and my dad pulling me to one side told me “if someone hits you, make sure you hit them harder”. It’s always stuck and one day I had to stand by it. It ended up with the Police visiting my house and my mother bringing me into the living room to show them where my head was cut open where the half house brick the young lad from down the road had thrown it and hit me….

    Why were the Police at the house then? Hmmm, I ran up to him (he was bigger than me), I grabbed him with both hands by the collar and jumped on his feet. at the same time sliding the instep of my shoes down both his shins, and then smacked him in the face with both fists. He ran off crying to his mum….

    Dad’s eh? Who’d have ’em 😀


  256. Thanks for posting this. I am a father of two young girls, and it’s really refreshing and interesting to read a post from someone who has an appreciation and understanding of what her father means to her. I hope one day my girls will be able to write something like this about me.

  257. Thank you for posting this. I am the very proud dad of a very beautiful 6 year old girl. When you have a chance ask your dad does the instinct or need to overprotect your daughter ever go away?

    My dad died last September from stroke complications at age 75. One of the few things I remember he taught was that life was much too short to hold a long grudge.

  258. FoodieMel says

    So happy I stumbled across your blog!! This post was so heartfelt and cute! It summed up so many ways that I feel about my own dad but have never been able to put into words. You truly have a gift! I really enjoyed number 6–I totally agree that memories are worth so much more than material objects. I wouldn’t trade any of the memories I have of my dad for anything because I know they’ll be with me my entire life! Thanks for sharing!! My dad was my inspiration for starting my blog because he pretty much taught me everything I know about cooking! Keep it up, girl! Great job!

  259. Hey! I am so glad you were freshly pressed! I loved this post as my dad raised me from 13-31 (current age). My mom left and he was stuck with a stubborn PMSing teenager and he did an amazing job if I do say so myself! I love my father and reading this blog made me think about all the reasons why I do love him him so much and more!!

    I love your blog and will be following from now on…happy writing!!

  260. Lovely post! It was truly touching. Reminded me of the awesome bond I’ve been lucky to share with my dad!

    Keep smiling and stay happy! 🙂

  261. I’m a Daddys girl, and this makes me think about my dad, and growing up with him. I don’t see him often because I live abroad, but I do speak to him loads. I really must learn to appreciate him much more. He does so much for me. Love him to bits!

  262. Very sweet….I have a 10 year old daughter and I hope I make an impact on her like your Father did with you. She is the apple of my eye and I love her more than words can describe. Thank you for sharing.

  263. niki says

    I really enjoyed this post! You are so lucky to have such a great dad!

  264. I love this. Often we forget just how much we’ve learned from those who raised us. One of the things my dad taught me was “just write.” I’ll take that one to my grave.

  265. I loved this post. Yes, because of how touching it is and how amazing your relationship is, but also because it is almost like a guide from a daughter’s perspective. I am still young and so I haven’t made plans for children, but I really want a daughter one day and I wanna be a great dad. Reading post like this help me know how to be a great dad

  266. I just came across your blog from the Boston Bloggers Meet up page! Your blog is adorable and I especially love this post! I can’t wait to meet you in April.

    • Thank you so much! I’ll have to check your blog out also, and PLEASE come find me at the Boston Bloggers meet up to say hi!!

  267. Such a lovely post, thanks!! Makes me want to call my dad who lives on the other side of the world right now, just to say i love him! Have an awesome day:)

  268. This was such an amazing and heartfelt blog.
    I love how you can express yourself so freely.
    I have only recently started blogging and you are such an inspiration.
    This was such a lovely read!

  269. Such a wonderful read, Carley! A heartfelt dedication to the first men in our lives — our fathers — who guide us on our journeys; encourage us to take those first important steps, and to keep going, no matter what; and pat us on our back when we’ve stood up for something!

  270. Life's a Bowl says

    Beautifully written! I think it’s part of the dad code to teach your daughters about “kicking where it hurts”! And definitely can relate about making your free throws- sigh, so many hours spent training, practicing, playing, and running sprints 😛

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  272. I’ve read this post 4-5 times and I can relate so much to it. Me and my dad share this wonderful relationship too and this post always makes me smile and cry at the same time. Its a wonderful nostalgic feeling. God bless you! May the bond grow stronger with time 🙂

  273. Last time I checked this blog was in March 2012… I read it all over again. It’s fun, emotional and amazing as always. 🙂

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  275. So beautifully put, you made me feel how an awesome individual he is. He must be so proud to have you as much as you are to have him 🙂
    God bless you and your family.

  276. Reblogged this on Dawn of Thoughts and commented:
    I read a quote today on Obama’s page on fb. It says:”Any fool could have a child. That doesn’t make you a father. It’s the courage to raise a child that makes you a father.”
    I enjoyed this post allot, take the time and indulge in it, it’s worth it!

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